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I’ve fallen for one of my friends, we used to be like best friends. We trusted each other with everything, despite how little he actually hang out with each other. There was an incident after he was dumped by his boyfriend he was seeing at the time. Im not entirely sure what happened but he started ignoring me and we didnt talk for half a year. In november we started talking again, and although things arent as good as they used to be. I beleive in time we’ll be really good friends again. Thing is though, I’ve not told him how I feel about him, I’m not sure if it would be a great risk if I were to tell him. Things are pretty unstable as they are, I’m not sure what kind of damage that news could do. He already doesnt return my calls. I dont want to go through “losing” him again. I’m just looking for advice really on wether it would be best to just hide it or tell him.
november wasn’t that long, maybe you should wait a bit.
but i don’t really know what to say cos i haven’t been in that kind of situation and my advice is generally a bit shit.
hope things get sorted *hug
Depends how much you want them. But we don’t know the person so can’t really give any better advice than what you know already.
I would spend more time with him before asking him out if thats what you mean
I’m straight and older so can’t give that much indepth advice (though over the years I have got the impression that due to challenging stereotypes and the risk of AIDS many gay couples have more commitment than straight ones, so wouldn’t want to rush things..)
I’ve had similar situations with girls in the past… I think they too are also wondering “what could have been” but still don’t want to wreck the friendship, especially if you did get together and it didn’t work out..
@harr!et 410321 wrote:
november wasn’t that long, maybe you should wait a bit.
but i don’t really know what to say cos i haven’t been in that kind of situation and my advice is generally a bit shit.
hope things get sorted *hug
We started talking in november.
The ignoring eachother thing started in summer 2010
ohh.. hm.
well the thing i can say is that the best relationships come out of a mutual longing for each other. there was someone i was breifly “with” you used to call and text all the time and i wasn’t really that interested in the beginning and it just didn’t have a flame and was boring, so didn’t last long at all.
so wait until you feel like there’s a magnetism between you 😉 if that makes sense.
but then again, i’m not the relationship expert.
Tough one – I’ve had a blurring of ‘friendship boundaries’ before – prob one of the worst mistakes I’ve made – but everyone is an individual and every situation is different
all I can say is hope it all works out for you hun- whatever you decide :love:
Its a proper hard one mate. I lost my best friend who was a girl because we went out, we are starting to become tight again tho starting a soundsystem together soon :D. But yh it can fuck up a friendship completly but on the other hand you may end up in an amazing relationship.
@`Matt 410605 wrote:
Its a proper hard one mate. I lost my best friend who was a girl because we went out, we are starting to become tight again tho starting a soundsystem together soon :D. But yh it can fuck up a friendship completly but on the other hand you may end up in an amazing relationship.
your starting a rig with your bird? your a brave man
Hahahha shes an ex of mine, i can see what you mean tho. It will be intrested anyway…..
@`Matt 410693 wrote:
Hahahha shes an ex of mine, i can see what you mean tho. It will be intrested anyway…..
go for it! why not ay
I think you have to go really slowly and carefully – if it`s going to be right, you`ll both know very quickly. But if you seriously do think it might be “on” (and don`t whatever you do try to talk yourself into thinking that it is) then go for it. I didn`t, once, and spent a long time thinking (ie wasting time) pondering what might have been.
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