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haha really couldn’t get past the “without being too detailed, here’s a LITTLE background on..” Then it was a wall of text.
Why do people join a forum to write a page of gobshite like this?
No really.
I want to know.

My gfs quite a stressy person lately, but I’ve always found once I’ve got her in the mood she’s loosened up a lot and got really into it.

Regardless of how horny she is though, ultimately she should take your needs into account in the same way you should takes hers into account. That’s not to say she should always have sex just because you want to, but on the same score it shouldn’t be a case of “well I’m not too fussed right at this moment so no” all the time. Really you just need to talk to her about it, cheesy advice I know but ultimately stuff never gets sorted out until you do.
My gfs been pretty stressed particularly a few months ago but because she didn’t tell me, I didn’t know what was going on. As it turned out she was having an absolute nightmare at the time with work and her grandad (who is one of the people she was closest too) slowly dieing amongst other things equally as serious as her grandad. But until I pushed her to talk about it, she wouldn’t – once we had though not only did it resolve the issues but it made us a lot closer as well.

Love is a bitch.

Hmm..First of all I, am sorry about your situtation what she did with you. I can understand your feelings. In my point of view you should talk with her and try to ask if she dont want keep relation with you then why she strated dating with you?

@JennaMax 530224 wrote:

I am wondering..are you a guy who would go down on a woman? Think about it, cum is really gross. I know porn women make it look like is yummy-yummy but would you cum yourself in your own mouth without puking? if not, then don’t expect her to love it. Another reason a woman may not enjoy BJ or sex is because she may have been abused or forced to it. Did you know much of her past life?

Always go down on a woman. well if shes clean lol. i think it tastes fine. lol the smell of cum makes me wana puke let alone having it near my mouth, id never force a woman to have spunk in her mouth.

@digitaldude 461122 wrote:

Without getting too detailed, here’s a little background on my girlfriend and I.

We started dating a few years ago, when I was 17 and she was 16. She was the first really cute girl I’d ever been with and I’d never done anything more than making out before her and neither had she. So we both lost our virginity a few months in, things were going great. She seemed pretty sexual and curious for the first 6 months or so, because all of it was new to her. We didn’t have sex that often because we didn’t have anywhere private to do it, but when we got a chance we took it.

After the excitement wore down, she stopped being as interested in sex. Her libido has never been that high, and I have always been the kind of guy who needs to masturbate once a day or I feel all pent up and have a lot of tension. It got to where we were doing it about once ever 1-2 weeks, which isn’t that much considering we saw each other at least 3-4 days each week. I know it wasn’t me, because I didn’t put any pressure on her (she never complained of that) and I always offered to please her however she wanted and made sure what I was doing was really good for her. When we did have sex she would generally say it was really good and orgasmed well over half the times we did it.

We broke up for about 6 months when I went to college (well, she dumped me because she got tired of not seeing me more than every other week). She had sex with another guy a few days after dumping me, and had a short thing with him but that was it. I made out with a couple girls over that time, but nothing sexual. We ended up getting back together this past summer.

In general, our relationship is pretty healthy. There are some problems but nothing really as big or problematic for me as the sex thing. She doesn’t really see it as a problem because I am available for her to have sex with whenever she wants, so her needs are always met. I tell her that I’m horny all the time and she generally says its not her responsibility to please me, and that she’ll do it if she feels like it (which is rare). Typically, we will have sex about every 4th time or 5th time we are together, although I attempt to initiate it as often as possible, generally once a day I’ll start trying to make out with her and feel her up a bit to see if she bites. She typically doesn’t catch on, or says she’s too tired, or quickly is no longer in the mood if ANYTHING disrupts the foreplay. She has high stress levels and is the kind of person who is always on edge, so I’ve tried destressing her as much as possible. I give her massages when i sense she is tense, and continually suggest she start some form of exercise or yoga or anything really. How do I lower her stress levels when she seems so resistant to change?

Sex to her is also not about pleasing me, or if it is, it seems like an afterthought. Even if she knows I’m horny, if she isn’t horny herself, there is usually nothing I can do. She will occasionally give me hand jobs, but almost never gives blow jobs (two full blow jobs in a 3 year period, although occasionally she’ll do it for about 10 seconds as foreplay if i beg her). Furthermore, she is grossed out by cum and has never let it touch her, meaning i’ve never cum anywhere on or in her. The blow jobs she gave me she finished me with her hand and always makes me cum on my chest or in a condom. She says it makes her want to gag. I’m not sure if she sees pleasing a man as a submissive action that would make her feel inferior (she has a lot of feminist views in general) or if she just doesn’t care all that much. I just don’t want to go through my early adulthood basically missing out on a great sex life. At the same time, I do love this girl. She was my first real girlfriend, we get along great most of the time, and when we don’t it often has to do with me being all tense and pent up from my advances being rejected or not having busted in a couple days.

I don’t want to be the asshole who uses bad sex as a reason to break up with someone, and I don’t want it to come to that, but I don’t know what to do. Maybe I can get some ladies’ opinions on this as well? What should I do?

It’s not even that I need her to have sex with me every single day, but I just can’t handle being rejected 70+% of the time and never having my needs recognized.

I think its time to get on with someone else. Being a woman I personally do not think cum is gross its natual guys do it. girls do it.. But I feel like a woman should want to please a man as much as she wants to be please herself. I almost feel as if her excuses are bullshit. I have never felt like this with anyone i am having sex with.. But I also know that I love sex.. I love everything about it. Its a way to relieve stress and it also is amazing.. and as a woman if i cant please a man why the fuck am i having sex in the first place. I dont understand women like this, at all. Id say move on sex is an important part of a relationship.. I wouldnt want to be with or ever get married to a man who is not willing to give a woman what she needs sexually and I would hope the guys would need and want the same thing.