Is this woman long term material or trouble?

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November 16, 2012 at 1:01 am

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bob the brave

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Met a women 38 years old. She has a wonderful personality, great communication skills and good at her job as office manager.

Problem is she although she is very friendly, she seems to take friendship lightly more as a convenience then a bonding (both men and women), she readily has casual sex, has a 3 year old son she does not have custody of, likes to party, smokes, makes subtle sexual comments and has a DWI. She also seems to be somewhat fickle in dating, that is, switching back and forth between guys.

I know this girl sounds like trouble, but I get the feeling she is looking for stability in her life and is really very sweet. Do you think I she would be capable of having a long-term relationship?
November 16, 2012 at 1:14 am

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barrettone

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Sure she is capable, but you have to go into it knowing what you’re getting into. As long as you’re aware of that and don’t get too hurt if it doesn’t go your way I don’t see the problem.
November 16, 2012 at 1:19 am

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The Psyentist

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Hello and welcome to the Vibe. Only you can really answer that as none of us know her.I know you’ve tried to provide us with some details but without meeting both of you and watching the 2 of you interact with each other all we can offer are poorly educated guesses. What I can tell you is love can turn up when you least expect it. If your genuinely interested in taking the friendship further let her know, honesty is the best policy. If it doesn’t work out it wasn’t meant to be.
November 16, 2012 at 3:55 pm

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Pat McDonald

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@bob the brave 506579 wrote:

Do you think I she would be capable of having a long-term relationship?

Not if she’s just after you for a quick fuck. I think she might just be after a reliable fuck. There really is no telling. But I wouldn’t bank too much on a long term relationship… it’s a funny age for women, often they get a “now or never” feeling and really urge to get pregnant. Kind of “Last Chance Saloon”.

I’m not saying all women go into their 40s feeling like that, but some do, and sometimes there are other factors (they might want a relationship without any sex – rarer but not impossible).

Please pardon me if this post sounds brutal – truth can seem to be pretty ugly sometimes. But, a bit of honesty, asking and finding out what she really wants (she might find you a terrible lover or vice versa) might be the best basis for any possible relationship.
November 16, 2012 at 11:47 pm

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Tank Girl

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I think the only one who can answer this is her

If you wanna give it a go – as others have said you need to know what you are getting in to and the reality that she might not be up for stability – or she might not be ‘able’ to do so because of previous experiences –

she doesnt have responsibility for her child – this may be an indication she isnt able to function at the moment with long term relationships – as if she did want one / was able to have one – i guess (and this is a guess) the main one she would look for would be with her child – does she have any sort of relationship with him? what are the circumstances – was she having a lot worse time before and is trying to get herself back on track? was it her decision to give him up to someone with in the family or was he removed etc

she may have reasons why she acts like this and you can not save her from her demons – you maybe able to help her though if she is ready for it

if you are gonna go in to any relationship – do it with eyes open –
November 16, 2012 at 11:48 pm

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Doesn’t have custody of her kid? That’s not good…that’s not good at all.
November 17, 2012 at 12:10 am

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korno

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She is what she is and you ”getting a feeling” isn’t going to change that 😛
I would not try to second guess what you think she wants, her actions and her attitude will speak the truth so just observe…. don’t try to create an image of her in your own mind of what you perceive of her as it goes on the same spectrum as ‘wishful thinking’
Best of luck dude 🙂
January 27, 2014 at 7:20 am

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kevinkrieger

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She do what she likes. Enjoying life that is very god. You can propose her.
February 6, 2014 at 4:15 pm

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Dr Bunsen

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How did you get on my friend?
February 12, 2014 at 5:12 pm

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EPICLULZ

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Sounds like a slut
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