stomperomper wrote:
I understand the point you are making, however i lost my license, as a result i lost my job. I did say to her things were gonna be tough and even asked if she was sure she wanted to stick by me, but then of course when the going got tough, she called it a day. So as much as I like to see good in people, my mates have the impression that (now I have a new job and got myself sorted) she is just trying to suss me out ??
i think when we really care about people we stick by them thru the crap stuff but as devil’s advocate ( an there are lots of ways to look at this):
– when you were going thru this tough time how were you? how did you treat her?
– when we’re going thru tough stuff, especially when it affects our self-esteem or belief etc we can be very hard to be with, its also a common practice to try to isolate oneself, push others away.
It is possible (if you were doing the above) that she backed off to let you know she wouldn’t be treated badly (no-one loves a door-mat) an let you sort yourself out, hence her continued interest and overtures of friendship.
It is also possible that you were a love, that she doesn’t really care an you should steer well clear.
‘s very hard to be objective about someone who has hurt us. Only you know (not us, not ur friends) what happened. kindest thing you can do for the pair of you is look at it honestly.
