Do i suffer from depression?

Welcome To

Do i suffer from depression?

This topic is empty.

Viewing 15 posts - 1 through 15 (of 23 total)

1 2 →

Author

Posts
November 10, 2008 at 3:05 pm

#694661
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
i think it must of started when i was around 13/14 when i got into my first serious relationship, whenever i use to have a problem about something, whether it was me not getting my own way, her not saying the things that i wanted to hear or even if i had a negative thought in my head…………i would be depressed. I dont need to sound so ’emo’ about this as such but i’ve always found it a problem, i would become quiet, emotional, rarely cry but have done and just don’t know what the problem is, i never want to talk about it, and when people do try and attempt to talk to me, i just find it incredibily difficult to voice my words.

i’ve kind of started to take it a little bit seriously, since i had a stage in my life where i was single for a year, i can’t recall getting depressed or these ‘mood swings’ as such throughout that period. But i have just started to see this girl, i really like her very much but she has said that things aren’t going to work out because i am ’emotionally unstainable’, which of course made me even more upset.

so i don’t know what peoples opinions on this are, i would like to go and see my GP about it but i am afraid that he may not be very helpful, or i could just be inconsiderate. i would like to blaime drugs for my mentality but i’ve only been doing drugs for around the last 3 years in my life (since i was 17). i’ve had a pretty rocky childhood, emotional wise since i haven’t exactly found it easy to talk to my parents about things or anybody for that matter, but i’m just not too sure whats happening with me, and i feel very trapped and insecure right now and like everybody, they want to work at making things better for things or perhaps people they care about.

i would very much like peoples opinions on this matter and thank you for everybodys help.

much love.
November 10, 2008 at 5:20 pm

#912934
1

Clang

@clang

Member
Sounds to me like you have been smokin too much of the hyperSkunk buddy.

Most of your symptoms are classic cannabis symptoms too (and classic growing up symptoms too of course). I really am not trying to belittle your emotional wellbeing but I would probably try hitting the drugs on the head for a while (at least the skunk for sure) before going to see a doctor for a prozac script.

My advice to you would be to go out and buy this book – it’s a belter and has taught me more about my own emotional wellbeing than anything else I have read so far (I have read about this a hell of a lot and think this book just gives you some idea of how fucked up you are/aren’t and gives some practical ways of dealing with your problems if you happen to find any).

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Dummies: Rob Willson, Rhena Branch: Amazon.co.uk: Books
November 10, 2008 at 5:31 pm

#912927
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
Sounds like you suffer from episodic depression (possibly) however putting a tag/label onto it may well be less helpfull as you would think. Mental health is in its early stages of understanding at best.

Firstly and formostly if you are having emotive/depressive problems (and this is impacting on your life) stop taking the drugs, even the weed (i assume you use some form of drug). Do this firstly because its very hard to tell how your mood really is if its being constanitly effected by drugs. Secondly if you do need to get help later on (on a professional level) then the first thing they will do is tell you to give up the drugs (in the uk they WILL almost certainly blamn this for your mood issues as a first step).

Also, find a GP you trust. It soulds like you have little faith in your current doctor, so if possible, find someone you do trust.
November 10, 2008 at 7:16 pm

#912941
1

Raj

@raj

Member
Here is a link to a thread about depression:

http://www.partyvibe.com/forums/lifestyle-health-travel/28988-mid-winter-blues-depression.html

Perhaps that will help you out if you havent read it.

Try cutting out all the legal and illegal drugs and see if your mood improves as almost everyone can have a negative effect on mood. TBH my depression has been mostly resolved by talking to my friends about it [yep I did a lot of talking :groucho:] and also taking 5 HTP tablets everyday to boost serotonin levels

:group_hug We are here if you want to talk :group_hug
November 10, 2008 at 8:24 pm

#912928
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
thank you for everybodies support it has been helpful.

strange thing is, my best friend has just come over to try and cheer me up about me splitting up with my girlfriend, but i was just seeing the negative side to everything, when he said ”oh she ripped your heart out and stamped on it” and i just got even more depressed, now he has dropped me off home because i was ‘going to be in a mood all night’ but to be honest, he was far more concerned about getting his leg overwith this girl he was with.

help, i don’t like being like this, i feel soo helpless and i can’t voice my opinion, what do you think i should do?
November 10, 2008 at 8:32 pm

#912942
1

Raj

@raj

Member
Was going to ask you if you felt you had trouble talking about this with folks you actually see as opposed to here on the forum?

And how do you feel the people in your life perceive you? [accurately or not is what I am asking?]
November 10, 2008 at 8:38 pm

#912935
1

Clang

@clang

Member
Don’t get yourself down brother.

You can’t rely on anybody else to make you happy, it’s all down to you.

I don’t mean that mates are all shit and you’re best off without them – that would be stupid! But it’s true that the only person who can make you happy is you. Honestly, have a read of Raj’s link and get yourself a copy of CBT for Dummies.

Having a group of close friends is really good for making you feel better, but it’s not the only thing that makes a difference.

Negative thought are just thoughts, they come and they go away again, sometimes they can get stuck in your head, but just let them pass on through. Classic ways of getting over depression are getting a hobby, going out and doing something when you feel down (endorphins are released when you excercise) and (believe it or not) apparently moving your eyes from left to right, backwards and forwards, again and again while you are thinking about the stuff that is getting to you can actually help a lot (don’t ask me how but apparently it is well documented). This is why I like to juggle when I get down – it’s doing something, it’s excercise and it’s looking leftrightleftright.

I also find kids films or comedy a great panacea for depression. I highly recommend Ratatoulie and Over the Hedge, School of Rock is a bit old but good too :weee:
November 10, 2008 at 8:40 pm

#912944
1

Tank Girl

@tank-girl

Member
hey HS

sorry to hear things arent going too well for you :group_hug

it may be worth keeping a diary and monitoring your thoughts / mood to see if there are any specific triggers / specific time of day that your down / specific foods / people / sleep pattern / etc

also look at whether you have other symptoms of ‘depression’

or whether it is more to do with difficult / negative thought processes – attatchment disorder?

it may be worth you doing some online research into cognitive behavioural therapy (I think some one else mentioned this) this can be a good place to start in looking at addressing your thought processes,

or something called solution focused therapy (looking at solutions rather than problems and a more possitive approach)

you may be able to do this on your own – if your able to be motivated or not too low to focus on this-

or you may want to go to your GP and ask for a referral to the community mental health team for some structured counselling – but they prob wont touch you if you are regularily smoking / using drugs – as you cant get a baseline mood as they alter your mood negativley or possitivley one way or another

dont forget we are hear to listen if you ever need an ear :group_hug
November 10, 2008 at 8:47 pm

#912929
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
Raj;244314 wrote:

Was going to ask you if you felt you had trouble talking about this with folks you actually see as opposed to here on the forum?

And how do you feel the people in your life perceive you? [accurately or not is what I am asking?]

yeh i do a majority of the time, the thing that got me down a little bit more was the fact that this girl that i had been seeing lives right near the college i’m going to, so it was easy to stay at her’s monday to friday then work the weekends, but my best friend has been ‘having a go at me’ because i’ve basically ditched my friends, now im kind of not with her i’m asking for his help, but the truth is that i am very busy with college, work and more work.

personally i think that people don’t particually see me as a great person, but that is the way i view it, people haven’t really choosen me over others, i believe my friends don’t make an effort to come and see me and i just look down on everybody, if that is what you mean.
November 10, 2008 at 9:10 pm

#912936
1

Clang

@clang

Member
@hyperSkunk 244320 wrote:

personally i think that people don’t particually see me as a great person, but that is the way i view it, people haven’t really choosen me over others, i believe my friends don’t make an effort to come and see me and i just look down on everybody, if that is what you mean.

I’ll say it again – you can’t rely on others to monitor/enhance your mood.

I’m sure your friends have just been busy living their own lives which is why they aren’t there “choosing you over others” or “making teh effort to come to see you”. People can be really blinkered sometimes, but it doesn’t mean that they hate you, it just means that they have been busy.

When you accept yourself and are happy in your own skin and happy in social situations again you will see that they love you really.

It can be really difficult to think positive thoughts when you are in a negative mood just like it can be really difficult to think negative thoughts when you are a positive mood.

Go easy on yourself dude :group_hug
November 10, 2008 at 9:15 pm

#912930
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
TEK Tonic;244326 wrote:

I’ll say it again – you can’t rely on others to monitor/enhance your mood.

I’m sure your friends have just been busy living their own lives which is why they aren’t there “choosing you over others” or “making teh effort to come to see you”. People can be really blinkered sometimes, but it doesn’t mean that they hate you, it just means that they have been busy.

When you accept yourself and are happy in your own skin and happy in social situations again you will see that they love you really.

It can be really difficult to think positive thoughts when you are in a negative mood just like it can be really difficult to think negative thoughts when you are a positive mood.

Go easy on yourself dude :group_hug

yeah perhaps, i mean somedays i am in a really good mood, it’s just when i get down, i feel like i’m really down, if you know what i mean.

and i understand where your coming from about the whole friend situation, i would like my friends to perhaps be a touch more supportive, but i feel like im being greedy and asking for too much, i think that all the people on here who have replied to my thread have been alot of help so thank you to everyone.

i’m think that im going to go and see a doctor tomorrow before work and see whats up, may not be anything knowing me, i have been under alot of stress lately but like i say, splitting up with somebody you are really into hurts alot, and i may just need time to get over it. thanks for your support TEK =)
November 10, 2008 at 9:47 pm

#912943
1

Raj

@raj

Member
Sounds like you need to work on your self image some at the very least 😉

You need to accept yourself for who you are and until you can do that others will also struggle to do so.

Something to remember is that everyone feels their own issues most strongly – you may think that your pals are ignoring you but they have their own problems and will be involved in them.

Friendship is a two way street and you have to make the effort too. If you ignored them for your now ex-gf they may be feeling a little slighted

Where you have just split from a gf it is normal to feel down too so dont be so hard on yourself about everything:group_hug
November 11, 2008 at 12:09 pm

#912931
[deleted]

@[deleted]

Guest
woke up this morning with a clear head, i’ve decided to give drugs, tobacco and alcohol a break until my 21st birthday and see how it affects me, i’ll let you all know how i get on and i may even keep a little diary on here :love:

once again, i can’t thank every1 enough for being supportive, peace and love to you all, may you have a pleasent day.

/DJ hyperskunk
November 11, 2008 at 12:21 pm

#912939
1

process

@process

Member
hyperSkunk;244384 wrote:

woke up this morning with a clear head, i’ve decided to give drugs, tobacco and alcohol a break until my 21st birthday and see how it affects me

i read that as giving up tabasco. you wanna watch out for that shit! lethal stuff, bloody tasty tho… good luck anyway with the other stuff anyway not the tabasco. 😉
November 11, 2008 at 12:31 pm

#912946
1

Sini

@sini

Member
Don’t beat yourself up so much hun. I’m glad to read that you’re feeling better and more cheerfull today. Have some pasta :biggreen:

Chin up mister :love::group_hug
Author

Posts

Viewing 15 posts - 1 through 15 (of 23 total)

1 2 →

You must be logged in to reply to this topic.