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November 2, 2015 at 9:19 pm

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janemckeon

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Hey! I wanted your advice on something, I’m not into drugs at all really and I don’t have much experience here.

Bascially, when I started dating the bf, he told me he used ecstasy in the past a lot but wasn’t using it anymore really and over the following year, always implied to me it wasn’t something he’d do anymore. Anyway one night he went out and didn’t come home till morning, he was very vague about the night and I suspected he did E, I asked and he said he did.

This panicked me because I’m very unfamiliar with it, and I’m also admitably very sheltered, I was scared that it could hurt him. We kind of agreed that him doing it only 3/4 times per year would be ok but then later when he went home I sent a message to him saying “Hey about earlier, when you use the ecstasy it causes me a lot of anxiety and stresses me out because I care about you a lot, it’s important for me that you don’t do it again, I hope that’s ok”, then he said he’d stop and I felt guilty for almost forcing his hand here and I backtrakced and said doing it 3/4 times per year would be ok, and he still said he’d stop.

Bascially – I’d love your opinions here, obviously you’re all mostly going to be pro-E, but yeah I’m just trying to understand his perspective on it all, do you think I’m being reasonable? do you think I handled the situation well? is it wrong of me to ask him to stop?

I did suggest to him I could try it but he said no because “it could hurt you”

Thank you!
November 2, 2015 at 9:49 pm

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tryptameanie

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Welcome to the forum. You actually seem like a caring intelligent person from your post and hopefully this reply, and any others, will ease your mind. MDMA has been around a long time and is considered a safe drug.

Obviously Ihave used ecstasy and agree with people using it but I also believe people should be fully informed about the compound before they use it and take measures to make the experience as safe and enjoyable as possible.

I would say have an open mind, do not think that what you were told in school or whatever is true. Drugs will not immediately kil you and cause you corpse to become an addict while funding terrorism. Drugs can be wonderful things for both pleasure and for medical/spiritual applications and MDMA is one of the most wonderful. You’re here now so I’m guessing you’re at least curious so you probably have many questions to ask. Here’s the place to do it :).
November 2, 2015 at 9:54 pm

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janemckeon

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Thanks for the reply.

I fully agree with you that if you could get pure ecstasy and know what you’re eating, Ecstasy in moderation is relatively harmless, however, I hate that he buys it off random people on the street, he literally could be taking anything, each batch of Ecstasy pills will have different drugs from cocaine to MDMA cut in, even to bleach.

I wouldn’t care if he could get it from a chemist or whatever, I would know it’s safe and doesn’t have anything crazy in it. Make sense?

There’s also an element here of me just being quite scared of that whole scene, don’t take offside or anything, but it just isn’t my thing, and I don’t like the image of my bf doing it.
November 2, 2015 at 10:24 pm

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Angel

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@janemckeon 973403 wrote:

There’s also an element here of me just being quite scared of that whole scene, don’t take offside or anything, but it just isn’t my thing, and I don’t like the image of my bf doing it.

Why don’t you tell him you feel like that?
November 2, 2015 at 10:26 pm

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tryptameanie

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I buy and use MDMA. I’m in the UK and send samples of mine off to be tested and you can but reagent kits which are chemicals that, when dripped onto a tiny scraping off a pill or a tiny amount of powder will give colour changing indicators of what the substance is.
MDMA is uzsed by millions safely every week but there are certainly risks associated with use but being as informed as possible about the compound, beingconfident of your product, either through people you know trying it beforehand to confirm it;s activity, reagent testing as I mentioned before, or to the extreme, GC/MS testing by a lab which takes weeks.

It is possible/probable that your boyfriend has a regular supplier where he gets a reasonable product and given much time, research, consideration andcoin flipping maybe then you could consider it.
November 2, 2015 at 10:26 pm

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janemckeon

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He knows now anyway, I didn’t have to, he knows I’m not into it at all. He said he’d not do it again, and then I said look if you absolutely must do it then do it but only 2/3 times / year and he still said he’d stop.

I just feel a little guilty for asking him to stop when this is clearly something he enjoys 🙁
November 2, 2015 at 10:28 pm

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Angel

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He should enjoy you more than drugs!
November 2, 2015 at 10:28 pm

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janemckeon

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I know he doesn’t – he boys it off whoever happens to be selling it in a club he likes – I was there once when his friend did it.

I get it’s mostly safe, I’m probably being a little irrational. I just would prefer him to stop, at the end of the day it isn’t a smart thing to do, and I’d prefer if he just stopped, he’s 27 not 17.
November 2, 2015 at 10:29 pm

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janemckeon

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I think he does. But I don’t want him to resent me or whatever for being a stick-in-the mud of sorts heh
November 2, 2015 at 10:40 pm

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tryptameanie

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Look, can we consider alcohol to be the same as MDMA for this purpose. You are asking him to stop taking something that he loves in the same way you and he )and MrsRobinson) love alcohol. The difference here is that his is ilegal. No more deadly but much less aggressive. If you are open and reasonable and talk to him about it maybe you’ll find some ground to start from.

Sit ad talk, he can tell you what he knows about it, then you say what you know about it, then how you both feel about it. THEN do some proper research (or ask here) into the compound and also look into obtaining it from somewhere other than a club. Try get him to go through friends that he trusts and who have also used the same chems. There is a lot to think about before deciding one way or the other. If h’s going beyond using MDMA and using coke etc. then maybe he’s too much but if it’s a little bit of mandy every now and then, then it may be OK.
November 2, 2015 at 10:44 pm

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janemckeon

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oh he loves the alcohol too. He only does the E once or twice a year lately – said if he takes it too much he has to take more of it to have the same effect.

I probably will talk to him more about it and just say he can if he wishes do it once or twice a year (his suggestion)
November 3, 2015 at 12:00 pm

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General Lighting

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reminds me of mum and dad (although Dad took different stuff and as it was diverted pharms it wasn’t then illegal). They did have some big arguments in 1970s (I was born in 1972) because Dad wanted to party more and Mum nearly got a divorce and would have taken me to Malaysia where my parents are from (if that had happened I would probably ended up one of those cybercops / soldiers monitoring the net anyway)

However they both have Christian backgrounds and a divorce might have got their immigration visas cancelled so they found a compromise (Dad changed his lifestyle a bit, got a better paid job/house and moved out of London) and did stay together until Dad passed on.

When mum fell pregnant with my young sister in 1979 Dad did “mostly all the right things” this time round, including suddenly becoming religious again (he was baptised as a Roman Catholic); although he took just as many if not more benzos.

I was also baptised (rather late) in 1980; as in 1971 for reasons I still do not understand Dad decided instead of getting me baptised to take Mum on a coach holiday of various parts of Europe which included AT, DE, BE and parts of NL (mostly Catholic areas) whilst I was still inside here. I remember seeing some photos of him drinking Bier with all these dudes in Lederhosen playing accordians etc, and a photo of Mum (whilst I was still inside her) and Dad by a “ZOLL/DOUANE” sign. I wonder if this is why I managed to pick up German and Dutch as well as actually quite liking Schlager even though I only had 1 year in high school learning German before I had to stop…..

I was also baptised at the same time as my sister and also confirmed as I was already at a Catholic junior school and old enough to know what may be sinful – The father of the local church in 1980 was a progressive Scouse/Irish Catholic and must have quietly said to my parents “bring along your new daughter, and any others you’ve had but not told us about and you will be forgiven…”
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