What do i need to do to be more confident around friends and girls my age? First off i will begin by saying when i was in grade school i was very popular. I had lots of friends, did lots of things with friends, etc etc. I learned I had epilepsy the hard way :crazy:(thats a seizure right there) in sixth grade, and my doctors put me on medication i didn't react very well to. The side effects of the drugs i was on made me freak out at school and no one knew why...i would cry in PE, get mad at the friends I was around, and was in general very emotional. That alone drove several of my "friends" away. Several of my friends moved away. In middle school, I was OK in regards to friends but my social circle had narrowed quite a bit:cry:. I went through my 7th grade year but furthered the narrowing of my social circle by doing one year of homeschool...and it didnt work out at all. That was my big mistake. During that time i didn't make any attempt to do things with friends let alone do things with them. I left the homeschooling scene and came back to public school, my first year of highschool, and felt like i had been out of touch for a super long ass time. I found one friend of mine that wouldn't ever reject me and ive kinda stuck with him for the last 4 years. Even still, hes not a good friend of mine. I dont see him outside of school. I just eat with him and a few of his friends at lunch...thats it. Just after starting high school started my parents divorced and i suffered from depression for a long time. I still do...who couldnt be when they are so lonely? I just hide it really well from my family and try to act like nothings wrong during school. I have let my loneliness and self pity manifest in me for the last 5 years now and im tired of it. I have self esteem and confidence below sea level, practically zero friends (really pathetic right? I have less than the REALLY nerdy acting/looking people), and I don't attempt to get in touch with anyone. Im super shy too...so now im in a bind in my senior year...just like the last three. Now that i have written my pathetic sob story i really need some advice on how to start getting my self back into things. I dont know what to do or how to do it:hopeless: I am planning on graduating in december and dont know if i should try to make some friends by the end of the semester or just say f*** it and do something differently after high school. I feel like the idea of throwing myself at people is pointless this year because its impossible to get back in with the people you USED to know. Then again, the prospect of getting out of high school and trying to do it will also be hard. What if a girl that doesn't know me wants to go out and wants to meet my friends and all i have to say is "Uhh...i dont have any". If you didnt know me you probably wouldnt guess that was the case.
P.S The worst part of this whole thing is that I am told I am a fairly attractive guy. I completely overlook this idea. Even if i am good looking (I dont personally think i am) its impossible to act in a productive manner because of the self confidence. Getting a girl? Not a chance! No one wants to be with a guy that is confidence less and has no friends. Humor me, look at this picture, and tell me what you think. Its the best face shot i have O.o
http://i804.photobucket.com/albums/yy324/jcr51096/IMG_7902_zpsa67b6659.jpg
Can professional counselors / therapists actually cure or significantly help anxiety? If you want the story that incorporates into this one check my profile. But, i have an additional question. I have severe social anxiety. I hate any sort of social situation...meeting new people, speaking with people i have known forever, blah blah the list goes on. Even the simplest situations make me sweat n' fret as i like to call it.
At the beginning of this year one of my class's teachers decided to have us go outside, sit in a circle, and quickly introduce ourselves. It didnt require anyone to talk for more than maybe 10 seconds. Well, that got to me. I was so nervy by the time it got to me to speak, as with all similar situations, that when i speak my voice is kind of cracky (like im holding back...which i totally am) and the words come out of my mouth so roughly that it sounds like i smoke.
My face gets red, i sweat, i even shake. Well, I have never been one to tell me family i have this issue among others, but i REALLY need some help. I am embarrassed about the idea of going to a counselor to help me but i don't think i have a choice. I'm too much of a ***** to put myself in any situations that require me to talk to someone else because i will never know what to say. I either dont know what to talk about or simply freeze up and be awkward.
I question the ability of any person to help me out with my problem...i simply don't think it can be done. I say this because they cant coach me through situations...they can only talk about them with me. When they aren't around me im on my own. Are counselors and therapists typically able to help people overcome these fears.12
Asbestos. I was ment to be having a new bathroom put in today but it turns out I have asbestos under my bath. Gotta love the 1950's council for all the yummy treats they have left us.
Log smash!
71 year old returns from tour of duty in Afghanistan This one sounds completely unbelievable but the source that forwarded it to me has some interesting connections...
Family welcomes home 71-year-old Bill Ray from Afghanistan | FOX6Now.com
Quote:
MILWAUKEE (WITI) — Major Bill Ray has retired from the military many times. Just back from a tour of duty overseas, he says at the age of 71, he’s now retiring for good.
FOX6 News was there as Ray’s family welcomed him home from Afghanistan on Tuesday, August 20th.
Ray’s grandchildren were there with “welcome home” signs in hand. They say they’re proud of their grandpa.
“I think he’s such a good guy that he was able to be in the Army for that long and get to serve the country for awhile,” Katie Sadiq said.
Ray joined the Army in 1959, got out in ’62, joined the Reserves, got back into the Army in ’70, went into MP’s and intelligence, “retired” in ’90, and became a Department of Army Civilian or DAC, went to Kuwait in the beginning of 2005, served three tours in Iraq, retired to Elkhart Lake, taught in Arizona at the intelligence school, and then last year, headed to Afghanistan at the Army’s request.
“This is really exciting and it’s been really hard on the children. He sent them postcards three times a week. They all get postcards. He keeps in touch,” Sandy Ray, Ray’s wife said.
Sandy, Ray’s wife of almost 46 years will now have to get used to seeing her husband all the time.
“We’ve pretty much moved all over. So it will be a big change. Just the stability,” Sandy Ray said.
“The last time I got bored, I tried this. So I think they’ve done everything so I’ll never get bored!” Ray said.
Ray turns 72 next month, and his family is planning a big birthday bash!
Arm injury I've injured my left arm from doing a bit of manual labour the other day, it happened on tuesday and has just got worse since. The joint on the inside of my elbow feels like it is going to snap when i try and put my arm straight.
The pain isn't really dull or sharp just more of a very strong ache and when I woke up this morning and got out of bed it was crippling. It feels a lot better when i bend my arm and tuck it in the position it would be in if it was in a sling, so i think i'm going to make a sling and put it in that, but I don't want it to stiffen up completely..
So do you think I should keep it bent until the pain goes away or shall I try to keep strecthing it as much as possible until i am able to put it straight without pain??
Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy test. Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale
I am not particularly surprised by my results to be honest.
You score for primary psychopathy was higher than 89.78% of people who have taken this test.
You score for secondary psychopathy was higher than 58.86% of people who have taken this test.12
Super Specialty Dental Care Clinics
A goose has "teeth" on its tongue but they are apparently not strictly "teeth" as such
I will ask my friends on the farm what they are correctly called as my friend Richard as well as being a electronics boffin has a great knowledge of ornithology...
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Nutter recognition guide Update due BBC News - Mental health 'bible' update due
It's been 9 years, but the latest batch of "abnormal" behaviours that it's OK to stigmatise and discriminate over are due out tomorrow.
I doubt they have entries for "Banksterist", "Gun nut" or "Mainstreamer Syndrome" but I could be proved wrong, as there really is no scientific oversight on psychiatrists or their kooky belief systems.12
Sociopathy/Psychopathy First of all a request; if it isn't too much trouble Doctor B would it be possible to add a sub forum of 'Mental Health' to the Health and Medicine forum? Just there seems to be a few threads on depression and what not and I think really these sort of things are a separate topic. Just my opinion though and no worries if you lack the time or motivation to do so.
So I'm having a really tough time with my mental health in general at the moment but predominantly with my sociopathic traits. To be blunt I'm not only thinking of hurting myself but also others, and these urges seem to be growing stronger by the day. I'll spare the detail but I'm having very dark thoughts that I'm unable to control. The doctors aren't acting very efficiently or don't recognise the severity of it so I've been doing a lot of reading on the topic to try and gauge just how sociopathic I actually am. Unsurprisingly this has proven inconclusive but thought provoking.
Firstly I learnt what the debatable difference is between a sociopath and a psychopath; two personality disorders that appear so similar most people don't differentiate. The main difference that stood out to me is that psychopaths are born the way they are i.e. genetics and sociopaths become what they are due to nurture and environmental factors. Though I believe this is just the general consensus amongst clinicians and not proven fact it is what has drawn me to the conclusion my traits are sociopathic not psychopathic; however considering the end result it makes little difference as to why I am this way. The other key point of difference I noted was that psychopaths feel no emotional connection with anyone; although they are often exceptionally good at acting otherwise, whereas sociopaths can become emotionally attached to people but only because the relationship benefits them. This is so true of me but once a relationship/individual provides me with nothing positive I sever the connection. I've done this all my life on a subconscious level and feel a total cunt to only realise this now. So many friends have I fucked off just because they've started to bore me or I simply couldn't be arsed with anymore. I've also done this to all my family bar my brother (this I was aware of because various relatives send festive cards and presents to which I feel no appreciation for and only wonder why and rarely return the good will). Always thought it was more of an abandonment issue but this makes more sense considering some of my other symptoms.
The more I read on the topic though it seems to answer one question only to replace it by another; I guess this is the nature of trying to understand the complexities of the human brain. To some degree I appear almost undeniably sociopathic whilst also maintaining some traits that are unquestionably non-sociopathic. It's all rather confusing.:crazy_diz:
The key component of both disorders however appears to be the inability to feel or lack of empathy and guilt. Something that I'm indecisive on how much this affects me. I mean I feel guilt and shame when I harm those whom I care about but I literally couldn't care less about the suffering of those who I have no connection with. Yet I spent 6 years supporting adults with Autism in a tenancy living and really enjoyed the job. I didn't like all the people I was hired to support but always did my job. Would this have been possible if I was really a sociopath? This made me think are there varying degrees of sociopathy or is it something you either are or aren't? There doesn't seem to be much information on that. Back to the lack of empathy, far from the only example but the most recent is the Boston bombings; I see everybody else saying how shocking it is and offering condolences but I feel no emotion negative or positive to the victims. If anything I am often able to empathise with the perpetrator of such heinous acts; although not in this particular instance.
Judge me if you will but I just wanted to express this more than actually start any kind of debate. Unless there are other socio/psychopaths on this forum I imagine it would be hard to understand my position; or perhaps not as you can probably empathise better than I lol.
Also if nobody had noticed I'm using my , and ; almost at random because I'm not actually entirely sure when you're meant to use each. An unforgivable flaw for a grammar Nazi I know. Is ; for when whatever subject matter follows the ; closely relates to the information prior the ;? and , simply to punctuate and take a breath during a long sentence? Pretty certain I could have worded that in a way that didn't read totally retarded but meh.
Breast feeding in public At trafalgar sq tonight I was totally impressed with this mother feeding her baby in front of everyone,
walking about feeding her latched on very little baby -
but I was shocked at others responses ( esp in what id have believed to be a liberal society) so I thought I'd post here to see what others think ( knowing it won't change my opinion)
my opinion is breasts are not sexual objects - that we are led to believe, the whole reason they exist are to feed babies hence why I do not understand the problem people have with breast feeding in public,
but I seem in the minority so thought I'd see what you lot think12
Time Magazine – How to cure cancer Anybody read it yet?
http://www.time.com/time/covers/0,16641,20130401,00.html.
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TIME Magazine Cover: The United States of Amerijuana - Nov. 22, 2010 - Drug Abuse - Pot - Marijuana
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