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Boyfriend upset because I don’t want sex
We've been together for four years and 4 months. My sex drive was really high when we first got together. My sex drive didn't start getting crappy until about 2 years into it. We thought maybe sharing me would help and it did for a while but then it got old. He still wants to share but I don't want too and he gets mad. We also thought maybe I had a bad thyroid I had other symptoms but my doctor said it was fine. The low sex drive is starting to take a toll on my relationship. Help!!
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August 18, 2014 at 8:28 am
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AOC Proposition
Has anyone married approached a girl just at the Age of Consent in their respective locatiions to do a threesome with their husband and wife?
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August 12, 2014 at 7:51 pm
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Using mobile apps during sex
So this isn't really a call for advice, more of a poll-type post: what do you think about using mobile apps (i.e. truth or dare games) to "encourage" your partner to be a little bit more daring during sex, or even build up the arousal levels beforehand?
My girlfriend is a bit shy, so I downloaded a few apps on my smartphone before we went away camping one weekend. Worked like magic! (Or maybe it was just the wine and the romantic beach vibe :P)
The apps I've tried so far are:
1. Couples Amour (18+ Dare Game) (favorite so far)
2. Truth or Dare 18+
3. Truth or Dare (18+)
"Couples Amour" was my favorite as it builds up slowly to the craziest sex dares, and you could define exactly what types of dares to be included in the game. The others were fun too..
Anyway, free to let me know what kinds of apps you use - I'd love more ideas.
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August 4, 2014 at 8:57 am
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[HELP] Help about sex…
Hello,
Im 15 years old, and I know one really sexy, pretty gril... That girl is so horny... She is 15 years old to... She asked my friend (He is 18) to have sex with him for frist time, he refused it because he has girlfriend...I have great contact with her and I wanna fuck her... But, I dont know how to start, what to do? How to make her wanna fuck with me?
I really need your help, I am inexperienced... This is my first time im trying hook up girl...
Problem is that because she wanna have sex with older guys... And good thing is that she loves to drink (to much)...
P.S She currently is not here :/ She is on vacation and she will come back for about month... And sorry for bad english...
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August 1, 2014 at 9:56 am
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Dating a girl with a boyfriend, perfect but not so perfect
Sadly this is one of the stories of my life, happened to me several times always with same outcome... I wish it weren't the case as I grow kinda attached to the girl because I get with them in hopes they'll be with me.
So anyway, I'm 22 dating a 26 year old chick who's with a "sweet guy" that wants to marry her but the intimacy isn't there. We've been having regular sexual encounters and often for 4 months now. She says she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend but the age thing really kills her and the guy and her just bought a house together (they bought it right before meeting me, and moved in after a month of dating me).
So she daily calls me and texts me how much she loves me and how difficult it is to keep it a secret and we stop talking after she gets off of work and parks her car in front of her house.
I feel I'm being used mainly for sex and emotional support. We click way better than she does with the guy and she says it's no contest with who'd she pick if she were single, but the thing holding her back is the history and the promise she has from the guy of marrying her. He really wants to marry her and settle down, and the guy is loaded with money. Me, not so much, just a bright future hopefully.
We've tried breaking it off several times, only to get back with each other a day or two later. She'll cry upon breaking it off and swears she hasn't had sex with him all this time, and I can feel that she hasn't when down there..
But today she posted a photo of him (just him, making a face) on her instagram that really ticked me off especially when she spilled how much she misses me and is coming over tomorrow.
Should I just try to detach myself emotionally and continue this while looking for another girl or try to win her over still? In terms of matching emotionally and personality wise, we're at a 95/100, just the age (place in life, settling down etc) and money thing (she says it's not money, but would miss the perks) is the issue. Not to fuck around but people that know her are like wtf when they compare her bf to me, I modeled and the dude is just w/e... I'm humble about my appearances but this relationship just drove me over the top and I admit it to myself at this point, don't mean to be a douche.
Sorry for the long read. Thank you for reading this.
Edit: Fucked up part was when I was growing up I was nerdy and was always the nice guy and used to get upset when the girls always wanted the douches just to fuck. Now I'm the douche and know what it's like on the other end, difference is my nice guy background makes me want to make her into a gf..
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July 25, 2014 at 10:30 am
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Help in the Bed
So recently my wife and I decided to get more adventurous in bed. We are a younger married couple and she had never been a very sexual person. We bought her first vibrator to see how we would like to use toys in bed.
While I was at work she tried it out and said she didn't really feel anything. She then said it's this way some times when we have intercourse. She said there are times it feels really good, times it hurts and times she doesn't really feel anything. Of course it hit my ego more than it probably should have but now I come here for some advice.
How can I make it good for her every time? Has anyone else had this experience?
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July 25, 2014 at 10:28 am
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How much sex is casual sex?
I'm asking this because in psychology I learned that casual sex is good for relationships. Well how much sex like for example in a month is casual sex? And what is casual sex?
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July 25, 2014 at 10:25 am
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Finger up the bum
My BF loves it when i finger him, i think he could cum just from that. i know i have read stuff on here and it seems commmon, just want to see how many guys love this, or how many girls have done it to their guys.
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July 20, 2014 at 12:47 am
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I have difficulties opening up to a girl
Hello,
I am having difficulties opening up to a girl. If i see a girl that i like, i fine it difficult to open up to her. can some one help me out?
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July 18, 2014 at 12:21 am
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Save my Marriage!!
hi ppl,
i need your help.. i have been married for a year now and we've only had sex once, its not that i don't love her its just that i am not sexually attracted to her... everytime we try to make love.. she just doesn't turn me on...
my marriage to her was arranged and not love so we never knew each other before... just to let you know that i had a rockin sex life before I got married... so there is nothing wrong with me....
i am not sure what's the reason but what turns me on is latino bods.. and I have always had sex with girls like that... but there was one thing which was missing in all my previous relations and that was true love... so i got frustrated and asked my parents to look for a girl for me....
my wife is a beautiful lady from the inside.. but she is extremely overweight and I guess that turns me off. and i don't like to go in public with her as i feel ashamed..I even have a extra-marital affair... I have even spoken to her about this... nothing hidden from her...
I do believe that talking about such issues can only lead to a solution....
Gosh! i don't know what to do but i need to straighten this out!
please help!! :(
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July 3, 2014 at 6:44 pm
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Husband upset because I don’t want sex
So this has been ongoing ever since we got married...My husband is in the marines and is finishing up his schooling right now. We got married while he was on boot leave back in August of 2013. We used to have sex at least twice a week before he left for boot camp.
I'm not really sure if anything's changed but I just don't want to have sex anymore. I'm never horny like I used to somewhat be, and I haven't masturbated in months. I still love my husband and think he's attractive and all that jazz but thinking about sex just turns me off.
I think maybe it's because I've never gotten off from it. Sex feels like nothing to me, like most women (don't lie!) and even if he tries to touch me, it just doesn't feel good. He's gotten me off a few times with oral but I feel awkward when he's doing something for me and I'm not doing anything for him.
We've tried 69 but he either gets off before me and then is too tired to continue or gets distracted and I make him stop so I can finish him and get it over with. Sex has really become a chore for me. He asks for it every single day and gets upset and angry when I tell him no.
It's even become something to bargain with... if I want to do something and he doesn't, he wants sex out of it because he knows I don't want to have sex and it's honestly the only way he'll get it now.
It's starting to drive a wedge between us and I don't know if I should feel guilty or be upset with him. We're a very young married couple, but we're both willing to work things out when problems come up. It's just I don't know how to fix this one. I've been told by my friends that I shouldn't have to have sex if I don't want it, but at the same time, he's used to having sex multiple times a week and now he maybe gets it a few times a month and I suppose he feels cheated. Actually, he broke down one night and told me every time I reject him, it makes him feel inadequate and like something is wrong with him. And I always tell him I love him and I shouldn't have to prove it through sex but it's not getting through to him. Every time I say no, he thinks it's because I don't love him.
So I don't know what to do. Trust me, I WISH I had a high sex drive. But it's not as easy as just doing it. Every time I give in and just do it, I lay there praying for it to be over as soon as possible. I don't enjoy myself. He tries to get me to enjoy it but I just can't. And it's not as easy as just letting go and relaxing. For me, it's like me telling you to go streak naked through a mall. It's embarassing beyond belief, and afterwords you feel humiliated. Heck, I kiss with my eyes open because closing them feels unnatural and weird. Maybe this whole issue has something to do with my insecurities, but I'm sick of being pestered for sex every single day and then guilt-tripped and feel bad when he's upset with me...
Are we both in the wrong? Is there anything I can do or say to make things better?
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July 2, 2014 at 2:39 pm
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TOP MISTAKES GIRLS MAKE WHEN GIVING BLOWJOBS!
So, I've really tried to get good at giving head because I want my man to LOVE my blowjobs. I watched some porn but that never really helped me. My cousin told me about this site, gimmykiss.com that gives tips and tricks and ever since then i've been on it and really practicing the tips.
But i want to hear from you guys what your opinions are. Like i said, im really trying to be good. These are some of the tips from the site i was telling you about.
1. 2 MIN BJ – Ladies, don’t expect him to cum after a few minutes of boring oral. Men are visual creatures… if they see you looking bored or unenthusiastic they will be turned off and they wont cum for a very long time. If you get tired after only a couple of minutes of oral, then you should try exercising your tongue and jaw muscles more often. Even when you’re exhausted, try your hardest to never let it show.
2. THINKING THAT ALL YOU DO IS SUCK!- Giving a guy head involves Tongue, Stroking, Jerking, and some gentle tugging motion. Anybody can suck it.
3. FORGETTING ABOUT HIS BALLS! - This happens often. Women get so caught up on his penis that they completely neglect his jewels! Lick, Suck, and play with them… they love it!!!
4. NOT LEARNING HOW TO DEEP THROAT- If you can go deep, you will have him wrapped around your pretty little finger for life. SO LEARN!
5. TEETH- If there’s anything guys hate, it’s teeth! Just cover your teeth with your lips if your jaw gets tired. NEVER let him feel your teeth. That’s an automatic fail ladies! However, there’s always that one random guy that likes this… we advise you not to take any chances.
What else should girls never do when they go down??? I want to hear from the women and men!
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June 29, 2014 at 1:39 pm
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need help
Hey there everyone. So I need your guys help on an issue. I've been going out with my girlfriend for a while now and we have a great sex life. But I have always wanted to be dominated by a girl with a strap on. My girl friend said she would try it but then backed out of it later because she feels like she is emasculating me. I don't know how she see's this. But I need some ideas or suggestions on how to make her comfortable to take the rains aka be the dominate. please don't be mean about this...this is something I keep to myself. So hope someone is willing to help me out with this.
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June 29, 2014 at 3:05 am
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To swing or not to swing?
I have been seeing a man for the last 4 months and I really thought that he could be the one. Before we started dating we talked about what we want in a relationship and I told him that swinging and play parties were a big party of my sexuality and my perfect relationship would incorporate that. He agreed he felt the same and about a week later we started dating.
At this point I said I know we'd talked about swinging and stuff but it was important to build up trust and a connection to each other before we started to play. Once again he agreed with me and we started on what had got to be the best relationship of my life.
Now here's the sticky bit...
Two nights ago the topic of swinging came up and it came out that it's not really his thing and not an option for us. I was shocked and didn't really know what to say so I left it alone cos fights on Valentine's Day are to be avoided and would spoil our otherwise perfect evening.
Now I'm feeling as if I was tricked into being in a relationship with him because he lied about his preferences to keep me happy. I don't know if giving up that part of myself is something I can do but the thought of losing the man is just as terrifying. I'm REALLY stuck.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
xx
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June 29, 2014 at 2:35 am
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Quick sex Sites
Anyone know any good sites for hook ups or quick sex meets that don't require a premium membership or payment of any kind?
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June 8, 2014 at 6:01 pm
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