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It all depends on the counsellor really. Some are a bit shit whereas others are excellent. Go in for a few sessions and see if you are comfortable with him and if not, try to find someone else (see if people you know can recommend you one.)

I have also and I agree w/ both previous post…I 2 have seen a counselor and can be both ways. Can b gr8 but can also be straight shit..you have to find the right 1 for you…good luck, keep us posted..

I think it is like any career – some people are brilliant at their job, and some maybe not so,

and also therapists are human too – so some you are gonna gel with and some your not – just like any other human relationship – lots of things will come in to play – culture, age, ethnicity, sex, class etc etc,

So the things you need to decide is what type of therapy you want? (do you want counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy, psychotherapy etc etc ) – it is worth deciding on what you think will suit you best and researching it or speak to your GP,
whether you are gonna wait for NHS or can afford to go private?
and what the NHS offers, as my local therapy service offers CBT and they do not offer anger management as they are only able to offer therapy for depression and anxiety disorders (and this may be the same as where you like – they are called IAPT (improving access to psychological therapies) but if your anger is secondary to depression they may be able to help in a holistic way but have the depression as the primary diagnosis if you get my meaning.
Whether you mind what sex your therapist is, when you are available -ie can you commit to once every week for 50 minutes on the same day for 6-12 weeks, etc

there are some good self help materials out there you may want to read such as

Overcoming Anger and Irritability: Amazon.co.uk: William Davies: Books

There is a self help booklet on anger here
Northumberland, Tyne and Wear NHS Foundation Trust – Leaflet Search

if you have any other questions just ask me

@General Lighting 468330 wrote:

TBH this chap (assuming he is a fully qualified doctor as well as his specialist qualification) might be perfectly OK in somewhere like a front line hospital ward fixing some victim of RTC or stabbing etc but ot really suited for the mental health ward however managed to get the degree etc and compete in the interview – Even then perhaps he would be better off working for TVP (he wouldn’t need to become an officer, they course have a need for criminologists) than the NHS as his anger could be better directed to catching criminal scum.

yeah mate, fully qualified has his little doctorate on the wall and everthing.

He was far to formal and prim and proper. From experience, a psycho-analyst/psychiatrist who is to be working IN a mental health centre should have the formal ‘powerful’ ‘I control your fate’ look, smart-casual, open, relaxed. I think this would have help him out, as yesterday I saw someone I was in the ‘system’ with and they told me that more people were complaining about him. So whether I’m right and he really is THAT much of a cunt, or that he really doesn’t have a clue how to interact with people……

@p0ly 468812 wrote:

spaz you still got a gf? i always thought a good loving shag/hug/kiss etc all that jazz sorted out all anger :love:

It could if it had not been he got a problem with it, it could also be symptoms of a depression and that often need someone from outside to fix it…..

Have a look at this website

MoodGYM: Page Unavailable

It’s an online course in CBT. Obviously it’s no substitute for actual person-to-person therapy or counselling, but it’s a good first step if you don’t feel comfortable about talking your problems through with a stranger straightaway.

I’ve actually had major problems with depression for most of my life – I’ve just never talked to anyone about it and let it fester for years and I can see it’s making me quite a bitter and angry person. It’s only recently I’ve realised it’s affecting my health so badly that I needed to do something about it (I come from a family where no-one talks about their problems and things like depression are dealt with by a healthy dose of ‘man the fuck up’). Well I finally ‘manned up’ enough to actually go and see a doctor about it and she told me to do that website, and has also referred me to a counsellor and I should be getting a phone call from them soon.

I don’t know about you, but for me, just the action of visiting a doctor and acknowledging that I have a problem has been a weight off my mind. So nice one for even thinking about counselling – making the decision to talk to someone about it is probably the hardest step. I’m personally looking forward to my first session now, even though a year ago I wouldn’t have dreamt about talking to someone about my problems.

Edit: Also, have you thought about getting a pet of some sort? I bought myself a couple of gerbils a few days ago and it’s pretty cool to just get one out and play with it if I’m feeling down/bored. Gerbils/hamsters etc are pretty low maintenance and cheap, and let’s face it, you could always give them away to someone else without feeling too guilty, unlike something like a dog, which is more of a commitment.