Crisis Thread

[1 Deez @deez Member]

Cool man, make sure you do!

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

^^ we seem to lifted his spirits a little. Hooray for Party Vibe:bounce::bounce_b::bounce_p::bounce_o::bounce_g::bounce_fl:group_hug

[1 Deez @deez Member]

@The Psyentist 521116 wrote:

^^ we seem to lifted his spirits a little. Hooray for Party Vibe:bounce::bounce_b::bounce_p::bounce_o::bounce_g::bounce_fl:group_hug

Yeah man, cheers everyone, much love for the PV Family. :love:

Seriously though i’m just gonna stop being a pussy and take more risks in my life and go get some punani rather then wasting away my youth.

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

@DeezNuts 521104 wrote:

Just the truth pal, i’m sure many others would agree too. Make sure you keep me updated with any new material you make.

Yeah man, It’s definitely an option i’m consiering at this stage once i’ve finished college..

one advantage of getting a day job in IT or electronics is that a lot of the tech skills are transferrable to music and multimedia production. When I returned to broadcast engineering last year as a volunteer even I was shocked at how much it had now become like my day job in IT, whereas in 1998 to 2001 when I was last involved in it (both paid and as a volunteer) there was much more analogue equipment still in use..

[1 Deez @deez Member]

Well next on my list of shit to conquer is my anxiety that my drug abuse has left me with. Anyone got any tips?
I’m sick of being introverted cause I never used to be like this, and its depressing as hell just being sat in college in silence all day talking to no one.
Don’t even know why i’ve got like this to be honest, cause i’ve had girls say im hot etc. and that i’m a nice guy and everything which is true, i’m fucking awesome, I even protect people from bullies.
The worst thing is that I feel hyper aware when i’m wakling around people, like I can’t walk properly which in turn makes me not walk properly (I think).
The whole thing is completely irrational so i’m just gonna break this shit now rather then let it carry on running my life.

Anyone got any tips on how to beat anxiety without drugs or intervention from anyone/anything, cause I wanna do this using just my mental power, i’m a believer in psychosomacy (I think that’s what it’s called..bit tired)

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

hyper awareness and anxiety is in fact a normal part of teenage life. Thinking back to my own teenage life (i started doing drugs about the same time as you did but had to stop due to exams) it is perhaps more the case you were previously introverted but no one really noticed that much, and it is only because of the false euphoria of drugs you might have socialised more (including with idiots who would drag you down).

A lot of boys (and grown men!) are just as anxious actually cover this up with aggression which is why it seems there are so many bullies around a great deal of trouble occurs in social groups. Some even end up doing stupid “out of character” things (although they always had the anger deep inside them) and beat someone up and go to prison for many years.

Also as opposed to high school from age 11-16 I do not think “friendships” made in year 12/13 college and University are that lasting or trustworthy, as there is far more competition amongst young people of that age group in a college environment and the govt actively make it like that, especially with the exam/testing culture which has got way worse these days.

None of the younger people I work with seem to keep in touch with their friends from college / uni or even have that many. It might be perhaps better to just quietly get on with studying and make friends outside your education network.

Also do not believe the great amount of bullshit chatted by older folk that “college days are the best of your life”. they are not, life is better and more stable when you get beyond 30 provided you haven’t made totally bad lifestyle choices in your youth.

[1 Deez @deez Member]

Hmm, what you say is so true to be honest.

I honestly wish to grow up and be as wise as you, for me that would be more fulfilling than having a piece of paper.

To be fair it is disgusting what the government do, they’re playing russian roulette with kids futures by changing the education system constantly but every system they come up with is so flawed.

I don’t know what to reply to be honest, I don’t feel that I can, but thank you for imparting your knowledge onto me, it honestly means a great deal to me man.

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

Unfortunately I did not do a lot of wise things in my late teens/20s and had to learn the hard way – we are lucky that even with all the faults of English society they still do give people second chances and more time to grow up, and also I had at least developed some skills with IT and electronics which are valuable. You do not want to “grow up” too fast anyway. Cheeseweasel made a very good point about how people are made to believe life requires very little effort and you can cherry pick the “fun” bits – this isn’t true, and if you rush things it can all goes to shit very quickly. I saw way too many of the “cool kids” who briefly got dream jobs in the dotcom boom get knocked back hard when it all crashed again a decade ago, whereas those who were the quiet ones who studied hard and were prepared to do the “boring” jobs kept on an even keel, and some of them are finally realising their dreams (like all my friends running the farm, they had been talking about doing that since 7 years when I first moved here)

[1 Deez @deez Member]

With no idea what I want to do in the future though I feel like I have nothing to work towards so subsequently do nothing, I made a step in the right direction today getting advice from the college but also last night from you guys, which again i’d like to thank everyone for.
That reminds me of something my Dad told me last night – “If you think you can do something I haven’t your wrong, I guarantee. Theres only one thing i’m going to say to you and i’ve said the same to your brothers – you reap what you sow.” Kind of made an impression on me.

Also, what Trance artists do you like?

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

Another thing you might be able to do (though it would mean a extra year in college) could be to train for a skilled trade after your A-levels. I tend to lurk on a lot of trade forums for work (as I need to work closely alongside builders and facilities management staff) and one thing I noticed is half the native British skilled traders have even worse English than the foreigners they are competing with, so I would have thought an electrician or maintenance engineer who can express themselves in an articulate manner could have a head start over the others.

The kind of trance artists I prefer are probably the less “famous” more eclectic ones closer to progressive/tech house like Kerry Leva, Ørjan Nilsen, Andrew Rayel etc though I do also like the better known producers like AVB, Sied Van Riel, Ferry Corsten. Also it does seem trance sometimes gets more diluted into the “generic EDM” sound with a slower BPM aimed more at booze friendly than pill friendly venues and also daytime radio airplay (at least in Holland where its accepted music and not seen as “druggie chav music” like in UK). I tend to go for the labels though as most of the artists operate under different names but each group of labels has its own distinctive sound.

[1 Deez @deez Member]

I considered that before going to college, as a lot of people that took up these kinds of courses were the ones who were even less academic than me and thought that the world was against them (the majority anyway) but I don’t think that’s for me – I can’t even wire a plug let alone a house. Before going to college I had considered Law as i’m good at English and was actually fairly interested in the law, but after studying it for 4 months or so now it’s not all it’s cracked up to be and I don’t think I could take another 4 years of it. If I was going to Uni to study a subject I do now, it would probably be politics.

Ahh I haven’t heard of them as that’s a side of the evolved trance I haven’t listened to, can you reccomend any songs? I like the old AVB, Ferry Corsten Paul van Dyk etc. but I don’t like the “Trouse” they come up with now, it’s to slow for my liking. To be honest I don’t even know why it’s seen as druggie chav music here, hardly any chavs listen to it and to be honest a lot of it has a lot in common with classical music with epic scores etc.

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

@DeezNuts 521281 wrote:

Ahh I haven’t heard of them as that’s a side of the evolved trance I haven’t listened to, can you reccomend any songs? I like the old AVB, Ferry Corsten Paul van Dyk etc. but I don’t like the “Trouse” they come up with now, it’s to slow for my liking. To be honest I don’t even know why it’s seen as druggie chav music here, hardly any chavs listen to it and to be honest a lot of it has a lot in common with classical music with epic scores etc.

I’ll try and find a track list though a lot of the stuff I listen to these days is probably a bit slower (I do collect some of the faster trance). Although the drop in BPM is also linked to many of its fans getting older and doing less drugs, and also trying to clean up the image of trance as in the UK anything with high BPM is viewed by licensing authorities as “drug music”, especially in coastal towns with a strong drugs culture. round here its also associated with gary boys/girls and bad driving standards.

Although towns like Ipswich and Felixstowe are actually culturally very similar to Rotterdam and Amsterdam, in the UK many politicians and worse, a lot of the people think that the Dutch have simply given in to the drug users and dealers and let them have free rein (especially those who don’t know how things really work there).

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

And I must thank you Deeznuts for opening up. I made this thread for any PV member to utilize but up until you I think I’m the only one who’d used it to receive support and advice from others. It takes more of Deeznuts to be honest and attempt to rectify your faults than it does to mask your suffering behind a superiority complex or delusional lifestyle. I bet you feel much better after offloading your anxieties now too.

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

Also with regards to your social anxieties are you wanting to continue drug use and overcome these difficulties or are you prepared to lay off them?

It sounds to me like you could do with giving your mind and body a rest.

[1 Deez @deez Member]

@The Psyentist 521338 wrote:

And I must thank you Deeznuts for opening up. I made this thread for any PV member to utilize but up until you I think I’m the only one who’d used it to receive support and advice from others. It takes more of Deeznuts to be honest and attempt to rectify your faults than it does to mask your suffering behind a superiority complex or delusional lifestyle. I bet you feel much better after offloading your anxieties now too.

Yeah mate it’s nice to have somewhere to vent, but it’s a bonus that I get responses from people of all different age groups and walks of life too. I’m not used to opening up though, growing up in a family where the males are all alpha hard men.
I am laying off the drugs man, it’s almost 5 weeks since mephe and a week today since bud (not counting the half/quarter j from monday as it had backy in it too.. or am i cheating myself?) and honestly i don’t think it’s improved at all but i’m going to give it a while and quit caffeine now too since that definitely makes it worse.

I already exercise a lot, eat healthily and drink a load of water (3-4 litres a day) so i don’t know what else I can do really.

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