Crisis Thread

[1 pyross. @pyross Member]

Sick of feeling empty/hollow man.

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

@pyɔross. 521900 wrote:

Sick of feeling empty/hollow man.

Any particular reason for this feeling mate?

[1 pyross. @pyross Member]

@The Psyentist 521906 wrote:

Any particular reason for this feeling mate?

I dunno really man, used to be worse than it is now. Just can’t seem to get rid of it no matter what. I think it’s just because I’m so far from home, I feel quite isolated; I’m back at uni now which is literally at the other end of the country to most of my friends and I guess I’m just missing them. But also other people seeming to disappear from my life and stuff, I dunno man. It’s a weird feeling.

[1 Deez @deez Member]

@pyɔross. 521900 wrote:

Sick of feeling empty/hollow man.

I know the feeling man, I have only one friend but the thing is he’s a proper true friend. I need some punani but I have no confidence anymore which just makes me feel worse.
I need something to look forward to..

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

@pyɔross. 521908 wrote:

I dunno really man, used to be worse than it is now. Just can’t seem to get rid of it no matter what. I think it’s just because I’m so far from home, I feel quite isolated; I’m back at uni now which is literally at the other end of the country to most of my friends and I guess I’m just missing them. But also other people seeming to disappear from my life and stuff, I dunno man. It’s a weird feeling.

Unfortunately todays culture is like that. People are no longer as friendly as they once were, even when there are shedloads of drugs about, and University is a stressful environment, you have to be away from your familiar area as well as studying for exams etc – plus everyone is competing with each other for grades, jobs etc and any co-operation/teamwork is forced (same as in the real world, where it can still be equally “lonely” even if you have friends). But it can be better to be “lonely” than be stuck in friendships/relationships which are dragging you down…

Universities and colleges generally contain fairly decent libraries. well they did when I was last in one, I hope they still do and not everything is stored on unreliable computers these days! They are usually open until quite late on some campuses. If you are feeling lonely then it might be worth visiting them and just sitting down in the corner and reading some books that interest you (even if they are not all related to your course). you might be able to find something interesting enough to forget about loneliness and no one is going to judge you for being there as its usually perfectly normal for students to be sat alone in libraries..

[1 pyross. @pyross Member]

@DeezNuts 521930 wrote:

I know the feeling man, I have only one friend but the thing is he’s a proper true friend. I need some punani but I have no confidence anymore which just makes me feel worse.
I need something to look forward to..

I think it’s better to have less friends but have them actually be true friends than have loads of friends and not be that close to any of them. I get what you mean about needing something to look forward to, I used to be so sure about where I was going with my life but I’m not really sure now, I mean I know where I’m aiming career wise and such but my girlfriend & I are going through a pretty rough patch at the moment and I really don’t know what I would do without her. We’re working it out, I just worry.

@General Lighting 521963 wrote:

Unfortunately todays culture is like that. People are no longer as friendly as they once were, even when there are shedloads of drugs about, and University is a stressful environment, you have to be away from your familiar area as well as studying for exams etc – plus everyone is competing with each other for grades, jobs etc and any co-operation/teamwork is forced (same as in the real world, where it can still be equally “lonely” even if you have friends). But it can be better to be “lonely” than be stuck in friendships/relationships which are dragging you down…

Universities and colleges generally contain fairly decent libraries. well they did when I was last in one, I hope they still do and not everything is stored on unreliable computers these days! They are usually open until quite late on some campuses. If you are feeling lonely then it might be worth visiting them and just sitting down in the corner and reading some books that interest you (even if they are not all related to your course). you might be able to find something interesting enough to forget about loneliness and no one is going to judge you for being there as its usually perfectly normal for students to be sat alone in libraries..

It’s interesting you mention the forced team work; all of my coursework this term is team work. Yeah I think I will start heading to the library a bit more outside of when I actually have to, it is a pretty good one although it’s like a labyrinth lol. Been reading quite a bit about subcultures as of late which is really interesting so I’ll head there to do more of that.

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

the best libraries are the ones that you can near enough get lost in. This was the reason the Librarian in the Terry Pratchet novels didn’t want to be turned back into a human (after being transformed into a orang-utan as the long arms made it easy to retrieve books from distant shelves).

what are you studying? I only lasted two years in TBH but was basically forced into a pure science course as the concept of multimedia hadn’t actually been invented in the era I went up to uni!

[1 pyross. @pyross Member]

@General Lighting 521980 wrote:

the best libraries are the ones that you can near enough get lost in. This was the reason the Librarian in the Terry Pratchet novels didn’t want to be turned back into a human (after being transformed into a orang-utan as the long arms made it easy to retrieve books from distant shelves).

what are you studying? I only lasted two years in TBH but was basically forced into a pure science course as the concept of multimedia hadn’t actually been invented in the era I went up to uni!

I’m majoring in Advertising & Marketing, doing minors in Media & Cultural studies and Design. For the most part I’m enjoying the courses, not so much the design but that is a whole other story lol. Pretty glad I haven’t had to do something that is pure science! As much as I find it fascinating I don’t think there would be any way I could study it at a university level.

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

I’m not sure if I love my girlfriend anymore and not knowing what to do about it is tearing me apart. She’s done nothing to particularly upset me, I’ve simply grown tired and bored of her. I have no desire to be with anyone else though which kind of makes the scenario a bit more confusing. I’ve felt like this for a while and was hoping for the spark to return but it doesn’t feel like it will:cry:

[1 MC G-Tek @mc-g-tek Member]

@The Psyentist 530132 wrote:

I’m not sure if I love my girlfriend anymore and not knowing what to do about it is tearing me apart. She’s done nothing to particularly upset me, I’ve simply grown and bored of her. I have no desire to be with anyone else though which kind of makes the scenario a bit more confusing. I’ve felt like this for a while and was hoping for the spark to return but it doesn’t feel like it will:cry:

Sorry to hear that mate, hopefully you’ll know for sure one way or another soon enough. Not having an easy time of things at the mo are ya?

[1 The Psyentist @the-psyentist Member]

@MC G-Tek 530134 wrote:

Sorry to hear that mate, hopefully you’ll know for sure one way or another soon enough. Not having an easy time of things at the mo are ya?

Well I’m on annual leave atm. Last week I just chilled all week to get my stress levels back down but this week I need to try and be a bit more productive in terms of what am I doing with my life and looking for a new job. The problem is I have no career ambitions so therefor nothing to aim for and my relationship with my girlfriend has just become tedious. We feel more like flatmates than a couple and I’m finding living with her really difficult. She’s a bit of an obsessive hoarder and I don’t even feel like I’m living in my own home, I’m simply existing in her environment. I’ve tried to confront her about it several times but the defences come up and she just out right denies any problem. Others see it though so it’s not just me being arsey. I used to just grin and bare it but without the love it really does feel like what’s the point?

Should really just keep my head in the clouds, seems that whenever I bring myself back down to reality I’m met by the inescapable dawning realisation of how shit and depressing the world is. Seems really fucking sad that I struggle so much to find happiness without some form of chemical induced high. I’ve also turned my back on the meds the doc gave me about a month ago, I made this decision after a consultation I’ve had since they were prescribed. I felt the meeting had gone well and I’d expressed why I’m so pissed at the world all the time and I was essentially told that my perception of the world was pretty accurate but that was the problem. I basically need to stop being so glued on to what’s going on and just keep my head down and conform like everybody else does. FUCK THAT!!!!

[1 MC G-Tek @mc-g-tek Member]

@The Psyentist 530141 wrote:

Well I’m on annual leave atm. Last week I just chilled all week to get my stress levels back down but this week I need to try and be a bit more productive in terms of what am I doing with my life and looking for a new job. The problem is I have no career ambitions so therefor nothing to aim for and my relationship with my girlfriend has just become tedious. We feel more like flatmates than a couple and I’m finding living with her really difficult. She’s a bit of an obsessive hoarder and I don’t even feel like I’m living in my own home, I’m simply existing in her environment. I’ve tried to confront her about it several times but the defences come up and she just out right denies any problem. Others see it though so it’s not just me being arsey. I used to just grin and bare it but without the love it really does feel like what’s the point?

Should really just keep my head in the clouds, seems that whenever I bring myself back down to reality I’m met by the inescapable dawning realisation of how shit and depressing the world is. Seems really fucking sad that I struggle so much to find happiness without some form of chemical induced high. I’ve also turned my back on the meds the doc gave me about a month ago, I made this decision after a consultation I’ve had since they were prescribed. I felt the meeting had gone well and I’d expressed why I’m so pissed at the world all the time and I was essentially told that my perception of the world was pretty accurate but that was the problem. I basically need to stop being so glued on to what’s going on and just keep my head down and conform like everybody else does. FUCK THAT!!!!

Oh that’s really fucking helpful ain’t it? He’s basically saying that you know too much, what a useless, unprofessional cunt! You should move down south mate, might get some better answers (but don’t bring ya dirty fkin brown sauce habits with ya if you do!).

[6 General Lighting @general-lighting Moderator Staff]

@pyɔross. 521981 wrote:

I’m majoring in Advertising & Marketing, doing minors in Media & Cultural studies and Design. For the most part I’m enjoying the courses, not so much the design but that is a whole other story lol. Pretty glad I haven’t had to do something that is pure science! As much as I find it fascinating I don’t think there would be any way I could study it at a university level.

Design probably is closest to science/engineering to be fair but still requires creative thought. I’ve got a fair few design groups on my flickr (perhaps predictably Scandinavian, Dutch and German ones). Curiously in mainland Northern European and Asian cultures it is seen as perfectly normal for straight men to be interested in interior design, which is why you often get more “masculine” (or gender balanced) projects.

[1 Deez @deez Member]

It’s amazing how your day can go from good to potentially shit in a split second.
I need to stop being a twat and doing stupid shit regarding college, but I can’t, i’m so fucking confused, fuck fuck fuck fuck

[1 pyross. @pyross Member]

@General Lighting 530173 wrote:

Design probably is closest to science/engineering to be fair but still requires creative thought. I’ve got a fair few design groups on my flickr (perhaps predictably Scandinavian, Dutch and German ones). Curiously in mainland Northern European and Asian cultures it is seen as perfectly normal for straight men to be interested in interior design, which is why you often get more “masculine” (or gender balanced) projects.

Yeah in Design we have people from Engineering running the seminars, the course is mostly to do with analyzing design though and doesn’t have as much creative thought as I hoped there would be when I signed up for the course lol. 🙁

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