@The Psyentist 517345 wrote:
On a serious note no girls/women don’t hate sex at all. Maybe a few select individuals do for personal reasons but the same goes for males too. To even consider that all females as a species despise sex is quite ludicrous, however to me this reveals your lack of self confidence and poor knowledge of human psychology and the way in which others may think. It also displays poor or little experience in maintaining a relationship? Perhaps I’m reading it all wrong but if I’m correct don’t fret, this can all change. I was incredibly insecure regarding sex and my own relationship skills until I was 22 when I met my current gf, I’m now 24 (25 in March) and you wouldn’t believe how much self confidence I have now. Although this has to be done without crossing over into arrogance, nobody likes arrogance.
I imagine the vast majority of girls you’re talking to on dating sites say they don’t want sex cos they probably get a lot of attention from guys only after a shag. If you can convince them you’re genuinely seeking a relationship and not a quick romp then provided you physically appeal to them you should be able get their full attention. If there’s a clash of personalities though your unlikely to get too far with them. Honesty is always the best policy, if you want sex tell them, if you genuinely want a relationship tell them. Never tell someone what you think they want to hear to obtain your own wants. That’s simply not fair and will come back to bit you on the ass at some point.
This is probably the best post I’ve read in a while. Very well said. The good thing is, your confidence will grown even more over the next few years! 🙂
Honesty IS the best policy, and not meaning to quote Joe Rogan (but he sais something like this …), “confidence is a result of honesty”. The biggest lairs, although appearing to be confident are probably shaking inside. Unless you can be true to your self inside your own head, then you’re never gonna feel at ease in any situation. Firstly be honest with your self, then it will become easy to be honest with others and things will flow due to the fluidity of thought process.
I used to lie to my self a lot when I was younger, without wanting to sound depressing, it was false hope. I used to think I was invincible, but strangely at the same time, because of this, I felt very insecure. Now I “tell it to myself straight” and my confidence has grown 10 fold because of this, in any situation, not just regarding women.
