Party Vibe

A lot of people I know have started doing this…most have suddenly developed an urge to cleanse their bodies and be good to themselves in order to prepare for having a child.

interesting – the girls round here (Reading/Oxfordshire/Bucks) are often concentrating more on their studies and careers, but are still just as up for getting pissed or even taking a few drugs and certainly don’t want to start families! they just “can’t be bothered with parties any more”

could it be a regional thing? there seems to be a very strong emphasis on families in Scotland and other celtic areas, and also amongst the Asian community (I am even seen as a “black sheep” by many of my own family for still leading a wild lifestyle and not settling down yet!)

but nowadays people can have kids in their 30s and 40s….

sometimes wonder though if a lot of people (from both genders) cane it too hard in the first few years and just burn themselves out then get disillusioned with the whole thing…. too much, too fast, too young?

i spose raving just fits into male social conditioning better than womens.

shame.

more than a shame IMO – potentially a long-term danger to this culture….

the ladies are half the force of any progressive movement – we’re losing a lot of positive female energy (LOL – that sounds like some real hippy comment).

and in some areas and amongst many groups of people the rave scene evolved into an actual replacement for “townie” clubs and pubs; and increasingly people are looking for potential partners on the rave scene

when you’ve got half the older girls leaving you’ve now got two “generations” of lads competing for the remainder (would account for a lot of the threads on SJ I’ve seen recently!) – in a male dominated group.

This just leads to a stack of sexual tension, envy and jealousy which is a potential precursor to violence – a bit like the townie club where the young lads get angry at an older man cracking on to “dem yatties from our ends innit” and empty a CS gas canister into his face (this actually happened one Christmas at one of our local nightspots)

but it could also be that girls are slightly better and noticing when things are getting “too much” whilst too many blokes just carry on regardless and drag themselves and others down with them…..

one positive note is that most of the “ex-raver” girls I know are still doing progressive and positive stuff with their lives such as setting up organic farms, fashion workshops, arts type stuff and aren’t dissing parties etc or worse still turning darkside such as joining the old bill, customs or anti-drugs/rave organisations and using their knowledge to destroy parties..

can’t believe though that none of the girls on here have anything to say on this subject though….

i think its just the fact that in general women tend to worry more than blokes.so i guess as they get older and theres more to think about…bills/family/friends/relationships etc they just feel the minor stresses of say getting to a rave,getting home from a rave,getting caught with drugs or whatever,isn’t really worth the extra headfuck.

true, I think girls tend to look at the consequences of their actions more…

blokes brush of stuff like minor car accidents, being nicked etc (or at least hide the inner paranoia or pain) – then when they’re older realise their insurance premiums are through the roof, or they have less clout in the job market because many places require CRB check now (even private firms) and they often even look at cautions

This isn’t good for society though as a lot of lads/men also just think “fuck it” when it gets to this point and drive anyway without the paperwork, or start doing “cash in hand” work or crime as a “fuck you” to the society which threw them on the scrap heap…

OTOH its possible there isn’t that much difference between the genders,, only about 2 years or so and most lads also stop raving around age 27 onwards (or at least calm it down).

I will admit myself I don’t go to all the raves every weekend and I am very selective about which ones I do attend and who I go with, so as to avoid too much risk of trouble (either with OB or other people…)

I try not to stay too long unless I have booked time off as I realise I have to be responsible at work (if I fuck up, its public money which is lost, money all of you have paid towards…)

but maybe that’s why I’ve got away with it for so long…..