I’m a bit drunk so excuse me, but I’ve thought about this briefly before, as all my friends have been male. I grew up with guys, and though I’ve experienced a lot of beepy experiences with guys, I still feel more comfortable with them. However, I’ve lost a good few male friends because although they wanted to be in my life, they had strong feelings for me, and I couldn’t reciprocate, so they left.
I think any human, regardless of sex, can understand unrequited feelings. I’ve been in a relationship for X number of years where the feelings are not returned, and I can understand the emotional detriment. I think we need to stop seeing ourselves as so extremely different, because beyond all the biology, we are of the same stuff, and if you’ve ever loved someone but they didn’t return the feelings, you would have wanted to migrate. Really, male and female are more alike than societal views allow.
The way I “like” to think about it is, we are special people to have men who feel so partial to us. I’ve been alone for a while, but I often have guys in my life, so I’m grateful.
I often wonder about Testosterone…we as females produce a little, but imagine being a guy with such strong affable, perhaps sexual feelings. Difficult to seperate from a friendship. Not an excuse, just trying to give a lil’ perspective. There probably is a lot of loyalty there though. Perhaps a good idea to ask your guy friends? hehe.
You’re obv a hot gal! 😉
