oh, you made a funny, Trypt.
I want to answer this one. I have thought about this too, and in theory it’s great, but I’ve found that what happens in reality is a little more complicated and sticky. And I don’t know about you but I hate sticky.
My ex and I tried it for a while, just remaining available to one another for sexual “needs” and while that was fun, and even fairly easy to negotiate, it turned into a bit of a nightmare. Then with the guys I tried it with, we never clicked on any comfortable level. It was always awkward, even uncomfortable, which is a pretty quick way to bring down a great buzz. lol
I haven’t had any success at this and I think it’s cuz we’re wired too differently and the best way it’s ever worked for me is in a long term relationship. But your question was
what traits they are looking for in the type of guy they would have this kind of arrangement with, etc.
and I guess that traits I would like in a fuck buddy are that he be dependable, available, clean as in disease free, intelligent, complimentary, devoted to our cause, light hearted and able to enjoy me as a person.
That might sound more like boyfriend requirements, but why shouldn’t I expect my fb to be a decent human being too? 😉
Dependable in that he says and does what he says he will do. Available, because it’s not nice to feel ignored. You don’t gotta answer every call, but be polite and return a call! Clean, cuz I am and I have no desire to waste away with some dread disease when it’s so preventable. Intelligent, as the mind is a very large part of a girl’s seduction, and because it’s nice to have something else to talk about besides your cock. I mean, I love it, but really now. Throw a compliment a girl’s way now and then, if you want me to draw me out. That’s just how it works. You don’t gotta be mine, you don’t gotta promise me nothing. Just act like you are really interested and want me. Otherwise, what’s the point, eh? And laugh. I love to laugh and mess around, and if it’s wham bam ty ma’am, just know – I can’t promise I’ll meet you again. lol Let’s have FUN!!
That list of wants may sound demanding and rigid, but you didn’t ask me what I’m bringing to the table, er bed. LOL
