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Adrenaline feels good, you do know cutting youself is a ridiculously silly way to feel it. There’s much better healthy methods out there google it. I know a girl who got abused & began cutting. She was close family & i saw her at the beach her whole body was scarred except her face no exaggeration she even burnt her nipples off and parts of her skin all over. She killed herself in a ‘secure’ (GOOD SECURE UNIT YOU IDIOTS) mental health unit using her bra few months back. Poor girl, I miss her, she never hurt anyone nor deserved the shit that happened to her which were extreme and most of her life. Imagine having PTSD and waking up hysterical in the night with relentless flashbacks of past experiences that were too much to experience the pain and sadness in years so it relentlessly kept slowly coming out in horrific flashbacks all the time. Please take this time to think of the good things in your life for my dead friend. We love you Gemma xxx No more suffering maybe was the best for you
I’m having trouble believing you’ll help if this is what you say about cutting. You say you want to help but you insult me for cutting. Sorry if I’m misunderstanding this but its just how I see it
There isn’t anybody on here or indeed the planet that hasn’t done silly things at some point in their life…
… if you have a problem with “silly” try “doing things without thinking of the consequences”.
Thanks for picking up on the word sillly and being unsympathetic to my dead family member and genuine attempt at trying to be kind and help. If you want people to say cutting your thigh so deep you were scared for your health not ‘silly’ then you’re gonna have a real long hard look. If you think what I said was insulting you were looking to be insulted I believe. You completely and utterly misunderstood. Let me ask you a question if cutting yourself isn’t silly then what is it?
@itsTori 549879 wrote:
I’m having trouble believing you’ll help if this is what you say about cutting. You say you want to help but you insult me for cutting. Sorry if I’m misunderstanding this but its just how I see it
i believe he was trying to help you by relating the death of his friend in similar circumstances. if someone freely opens up their own personal experiences of tragedy for your benefit, it can be respectful to at least acknowledge this before critiquing
why are you defending cutting btw?
I didn’t mean to be unsympathetic, I’m sorry. I was only scared because today is a day i’d really like to avoid the hospital. It doesn’t matter to me if I would have died or not because I enjoyed the cut and it made me feel free. Sorry if I sound insane but its a relief from other things. I wasn’t looking to be insulted, if you were in the same situation every night cutting to take the pain away(although never this deep) you’d think the same thing. Cutting isn’t silly, it helps me and the others who do it get through emotional pains, escape our thoughts for that time.
why are you defending cutting btw?
I didn’t mean to be rude about it I just felt that defending what I believe isn’t silly was more important at that time I defend cutting because its helpful and I do it.
I have to ask; does cutting really help? Or is it simply a good feeling you’re addicted to?
I smoke weed daily because I tell myself it helps me deal with past issues. Realistically though I know this is bullshit, it is merely I nice feeling which distracts me from my problems but certainly does nothing to resolve them.
When emotions run too high I will also self harm but again it achieves nothing in the long run, it only replaces one pain with a preferred one.
Maybe to stop self harming isn’t an option for you right now but there is likely something less destructive and dangerous that you can replace it with.
Additionally perhaps if you revealed a bit more of your situation the other members can have a greater understanding of why you do what you do. Someone may suggest something I haven’t thought of. Don’t feel obligated to do so though, it’s your choice.
these Q’s may seem a little harsh, but i’m assuming we want to get to the root of this issue so you can unearth it and plant some flowers there instead…
1) what gives more pleasure: the sensation/adrenaline/freedom you get from cutting?… or that it makes you different from others and gains concern of the people that care about you?
2) if there was no-one around you that cared, or even, if you were in isolation and there were no people, would this activity be less enjoyable?
3) do you feel that conscious suicide (as in, where you still have the faculties to make rational choices) is less selfish than murder? in both cases there is an unnecessary loss of life and the people that care are left to suffer
if this is ‘out of order’ then feel free to say and share whats going on in your mind. i don’t know you and i’m only going by the comments you’ve made so far, but the emphasis does seem to be more on the fact that you enjoy self harming and that you’re not bothered if you die rather than any issues…
this is a very friendly forum and there are people here that will genuinely make an effort for you. there is quite a varied age range. most of us are at least a fair bit older than you, have life experience that we can share to try and help you. thats not to say that those similar to your age don’t have plenty to offer (much older in mind than i was at that age). it may be useful for your recovery and you can talk/write in confidence with people independent of your situation. but, if your purpose is merely to exhaust the energies of kind people then this will probably be a short ride for you here..- just to point out the potential ‘bump in the road’ before you may arrive at it. i wouldn’t want your feeling of negativity to increase by your experience here.
peace x
@know_hope 549910 wrote:
these Q’s may seem a little harsh, but i’m assuming we want to get to the root of this issue so you can unearth it and plant some flowers there instead…
1) what gives more pleasure: the sensation/adrenaline/freedom you get from cutting?… or that it makes you different from others and gains concern of the people that care about you?
2) if there was no-one around you that cared, or even, if you were in isolation and there were no people, would this activity be less enjoyable?
3) do you feel that conscious suicide (as in, where you still have the faculties to make rational choices) is less selfish than murder? in both cases there is an unnecessary loss of life and the people that care are left to suffer
if this is ‘out of order’ then feel free to say and share whats going on in your mind. i don’t know you and i’m only going by the comments you’ve made so far, but the emphasis does seem to be more on the fact that you enjoy self harming and that you’re not bothered if you die rather than any issues…
this is a very friendly forum and there are people here that will genuinely make an effort for you. there is quite a varied age range. most of us are at least a fair bit older than you, have life experience that we can share to try and help you. thats not to say that those similar to your age don’t have plenty to offer (much older in mind than i was at that age). it may be useful for your recovery and you can talk/write in confidence with people independent of your situation. but, if your purpose is merely to exhaust the energies of kind people then this will probably be a short ride for you here..- just to point out the potential ‘bump in the road’ before you may arrive at it. i wouldn’t want your feeling of negativity to increase by your experience here.
peace x
I could probably answer those questions based on what I’ve been told via PM but it is not my place to do so. The OP will have to make that decision themselves. There are a lot more chapters to this story beyond what they’ve revealed in public posts so far, if or when they decide to open up more I’m sure everybody wil understand the initial secrecy.
@p0lski 549878 wrote:
Adrenaline feels good, you do know cutting youself is a ridiculously silly way to feel it. There’s much better healthy methods out there google it. I know a girl who got abused & began cutting. She was close family & i saw her at the beach her whole body was scarred except her face no exaggeration she even burnt her nipples off and parts of her skin all over. She killed herself in a ‘secure’ (GOOD SECURE UNIT YOU IDIOTS) mental health unit using her bra few months back. Poor girl, I miss her, she never hurt anyone nor deserved the shit that happened to her which were extreme and most of her life. Imagine having PTSD and waking up hysterical in the night with relentless flashbacks of past experiences that were too much to experience the pain and sadness in years so it relentlessly kept slowly coming out in horrific flashbacks all the time. Please take this time to think of the good things in your life for my dead friend. We love you Gemma xxx No more suffering maybe was the best for you
Chances are she had BPS. Never popular to admit, a sever condition. She was stastically probably sexually abused. I wish all the best for her.
oh nice to know people are working behind the scenes. i can quite understand if you want to keep it that way. don’t feel any pressure by my post or need to answer Q’s x
1) what gives more pleasure: the sensation/adrenaline/freedom you get from cutting?… or that it makes you different from others and gains concern of the people that care about you?
2) if there was no-one around you that cared, or even, if you were in isolation and there were no people, would this activity be less enjoyable?
3) do you feel that conscious suicide (as in, where you still have the faculties to make rational choices) is less selfish than murder? in both cases there is an unnecessary loss of life and the people that care are left to suffer
1: the way cutting feels. I try to avoid people knowing, big reason I avoided the hospital yesterday(call me dumb for doing that, but I’m here)
2: no, its not about people who are there, it helps me escape my thoughts and in yesterdays case I felt free and content with whatever happened although I didn’t want it to happen then.
3: yes. people have a right to their body and no one should try to control it. Murder is someone intentionally killing one or more innocent people. I know people are left to suffer but at least with suicide I could kill myself with something going into me instead of the mutilation of a body that occurs with most murders. Everyone is meant to die some time, maybe people don’t deserve to go early but if they chose to do so that’s their right and if it were a ‘natural’ death or not the family would still be left hurting and some might be left regretting.
Bps?
I don’t know if I was ever sexually abused and if I was I don’t remember much on my life before the age of 12 so it’d be in there somewhere. I get a weird feeling around my dad like he did that and he’s trying to hide it.
i didn’t quite understand the wording in your last point, but if you’re decided in your opinions then ok. i think that whatever has happened in your life you are quite young for making these kind of decisions. as you get older your brain chemistry will be continually changing and this may turn out to be a phase of your life you can look back on in a brighter moment. many people struggle at your age.. it can be a difficult moment even with out challenging potential stresses, and we all have different life situations, but whatever your experience is, it is always the external. it is not actually you. you are not merely the sum of your environmental influences. you have consciousness and are capable of living in whichever way you choose. even in auschwitz there were people who learned to train they’re brain into positivity and contentment
You need stitches and you need them ASAP. Go to the hospital. I don’t care what you tell them about how you got the cut just go get stitches. Your mental health is not mine to give advice about but I do know a half inch deep cut that won’t stop bleeding is going to need a few stitches. GO
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