@MR207 494349 wrote:
Ok so I worked with this guy who is about 10 years older than me and we sorta have a thing, or did when we worked together. We started texting and he would say sexual things to me at work but nothing that made me uncomfortable. He’s a really nice guy and he’s really friendly but when we started doing sexual things I questioned if he was using me, because he flirts with alot of girls or if he genuinely likes me for who I am. He’s told me he cares about me and that we’re friends and we can talk about anything not just sex. We text all the time and I’m the one that usually initiates the sexual talk, he does sometimes. I wanted to feel something with him because I was very very sexually attracted to him and there was sexual tension when we worked together. He treats me very special, different than the other employees, but the bad thing is, is that he has a girlfriend and I never called him out on it because I liked him sooo much. He calls me beautiful and we can laugh about the craziest stuff. He got let go a few months ago, and we still text but my feelings are so messed up because I don’t know if he was just using me for the sexual stuff or if he actually cared about me. He also says my personality is his favorite thing and that it always puts him in a better mood. So…whats up??
He probably does care about you and is rather fond of you but doesn’t think you are ‘the one’
Hes not willing to let this other girl go and probably cause shes older… realistically a 28 yo man does not want to settle down with an 18 yo…you might be mature for your age but still you have a lot to learn ans experience in life.
Hes being inconsiderate and gets a thrill from seeing more than one girl at once. Alot of men (and woman) struggle with monogamy and once a relationship gets serious they look elsewhere for a fresh fling.
Honestly I wouldn’t give this guy the satisfaction of two-timing.
Save it for someone who respects you and have fun.
I was in a similar situation when i was 17 and worked in a close environment with a 28yo…now i look back he was serious with one girl his age but flirted with lots of other girls and I was one of them. We texted and flirted and even had sex, but I liked him and enjoyed the attention so much I refused to believe he was using me.
Its amazing how we can lie to ourself so much we start to believe things because the truth hurts.
Accept hes after something different to you and move on. I mean…even if he did choose to drop this other girl and get more serious with you do you really want to get involved with such a person? A person who belatedly disrespects ladies and makes them look like idiots by cheating behind their backs?
Move on. You’ve got all the time in the world to see blokes, have fun with them and save all the emotional stuff for the ones that are worth it.
Have a laugh with your mates and enjoy the company of other blokes..for yourself.
