it sounds to me like there’s a whole load of machismo shite being spoken here :you_crazy
apart from the fact that all the evidence from sociological & psychological studies as well as experiences in the penal system show that brutalising people makes the problem worse
children (and he is a child) respond well to clear, fair boundaries. when they don’t get that (particularly at home), they get messed up.
unless he is clinically psychopathic there’s no reason he wouldn’t respond to normal communication or a positive intervention
I don’t know why he’s chosen to kick your door, so just a few tips
if you hit him, you are likely to end up with a serious criminal charge and a lifelong record on the child offenders register. if you attempt a ‘citizen arrest’, be aware that you can only do so in self defence. self defence can also include a reasonable fear that the person you are arresting is going to inflict serious physical harm on someone else immediately unless you intervene. unless you are trained in restraining techniques specific to children, anything you do in a struggle has an increased chance of causing a grevious injury (i.e fracturing a bone) compared to an adult
if him kicking your door and giving your parents verbal is genuinely causing distress (and it sounds like it is) you should; keep a diary of every incident; ask neighbours if they have witnessed any incidents and if so, ask them to write down what they saw (just sticking to the facts, leave out any opinions about the kid); and keep ringing the police… dialling 999 because a kid kicked your door is unlikely to get any response, so call your local police call centre, find out who is your local beat and get them round to explain what has been happening, show them your diary of dates, any witnesses etc. chances are he’s “known” to local cops already, he may already have a youth crime prevention worker assigned to him. these trained professionals are far better to deal with him than you
taking matters into your own hands will just escalate the situation and place you a long way on the wrong side of the law.
basically, smacking anyone is the sure sign of a throwback, no matter how how wound up you get. take a deep breath. he’s just a fucked up little kid. don’t make matters a whole shade worse for yourself by acting on adrenalin. use your head
good luck and let us know how it goes :group_hug
