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@12BarBlues 544390 wrote:

Neither of us want kids as she’s tied up with her career and I’m far too irresponsible, I think children can put a massive strain on a relationship especially if your young or not financially secure.

in my current region of the UK people have to some extent good family values like in SE Asia; especially a genuine love and empathy towards babies and children and a belief in both extended families and a strong welfare safety net to protect them, but many couples do not think quite as much that “once you have a kid you must stay together if at all possible” like they do in other cultures/nations.

At the same time so many people especially girls/women think they are “incomplete” if they have not bred. I quite like kids (and dogs as well) but consider both to be high maintenance creatures, fair play to folk who look after them but they are not for me.

I think there are plenty enough children the UK so if I don’t produce any its not as if humans will go extinct TBH…. I also know so many people too my age (and also younger) who are a “part time single parent” and also single (or have constantly changing relationships) and quite frankly that seems like a shitty situation to be in for both you and the kids for a whole variety of reasons.