I can understand how you would be feeling about the rejection thing. when i was dating in high school, most the guys i was with were all about the sex and i wasn’t ready maturity-wise to do that (not to mention high school guys to me always acted like if they could get some ass that’s all that mattered). so i ended up leaving a lot of my boyfriends because i know that that was what they wanted and i wasn’t ready so i could not give them what they thought they needed.
take it from a female’s standpoint: we’re typically looked at as being rigid or not liking sex at all when in fact, we love sex just as much as anybody else. maybe she wants to work on your relationship WITHOUT sex being involved – that being said, she needs to realize that you have specific needs to be met as well. all relationships SHOULD be equal partners getting the best out of relationship itself; helping each other out and that sort of thing. but there are no 2 girls that are the same as there are no 2 boys that are the same.
take it from my POV: i love guys, i love girls. i’m bisexual – that doesn’t mean i will hump anything that moves…but that also doesn’t mean i’m all about the sex. i want to have a healthy relationship with sex and to be able to have fun. i’m 24 yrs old, i have a lot of time left on this earth (hopefully) and i haven’t had legit sex since august 2013? ish. have i missed it? HELL YEA! would i go blow a goat on the internet for all to see because i need to get off? no. now is the time to either jump ship or upgrade to the captain’s position. as a man, you automatically feel that you should be the one in the relationship to support everyone else. this simply isn’t true. you’re just as liable as she is.
i definitely think that you guys should discuss the issue before it goes to the point of no one speaking and being bored/miserable. she is not the only one who needs to get off – you have a say in this. sometimes women like it when you put your foot down and say that you need to have sex a little more often than you do. if she doesnt like it – tough. she’s welcome to walk out. i hate to be so cut and dry and i can tell that you really like her but sometimes, loving someone the best way is to let them go. sounds cheesy but it’s true.
i’m not saying leave her right now, i am encouraging you to bring this up and speak privately with her. depending on how she reacts to this topic, you will know whether or not to stay.
