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December 26, 2007 at 11:15 pm

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mudstomper

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Been trying to get myself together to write something on this thread, similar sketch to Daft’s, I know this shit ain’t gonna leave me but one of the tricks I learnt wa, if you feel so down you can’t imagine anyone from your 5 closest people wanting anything to do with you, phone, text, turn up on their doorstep, do something to break that fuxking bastard of a voice in your head, even when I’ve been told “fuck off mate it’s 4 in the morning” it’s been enough to break the spell, even briefly, maybe enough to keep yourself going, damn, couldn’t put these thoughts together well enough to make it constructive but tried
December 26, 2007 at 11:45 pm

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DaftFader

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mudstompa .. i think i know what you meen aoubt m8s and stuff … it gets realy hard to realte to your friends some times if your depressed … if im drinking (normaly to give my self confidance and deal with shit like that in my head) then alltho it can make me feel bettewr for a bit shit allways seems worce after … you just got to try your best to get out of the state of mind you are in ..with out beating your self up about it … its a tricky one … best way imo is to take it gradualy .. step by step .. and try not to get too worryed about every thing:group_hug
December 27, 2007 at 12:35 am

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mudstomper

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I’m dead lucky got 2 mates who won’t leave it aloane when they know I’m down, sometimes can’t even look them in the eye when talking but know it’s the right thing to do, we’ve all seen each other through some bad shit recently, I think places like this can be really helpful too, getting in contact with like minds :love: Extra thanks to Angel for that special translation and GL for turning up to a small but very real gathering raaa
December 27, 2007 at 12:38 am

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mudstomper

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Plus live Mighty Boosh helps with a big bifter and a whisky and ginger, feel like releasing the hounds……
December 27, 2007 at 12:43 am

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DaftFader

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mudstomper wrote:

Plus live Mighty Boosh helps with a big bifter and a whisky and ginger, feel like releasing the hounds……

yeah thats a very good point … if im feeling down .. even in the worce states i have been in .. simpsons or and comady /stand up pref brings me back to reality (my happy one) and cheers me up:group_hug

a mod friend of mine went to see the live mighty boosh .. she absolutly loved it …
December 27, 2007 at 12:51 am

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General Lighting

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DaftFader wrote:

just take things one step at a time and try and put your baggage behind you and find positive things around you nomatter how small and concentrate on them .. rather than the bad stuff … i hope this helps some one out …:group_hug

thanks for sharing that..

also although it may seem as a “buzzing city” when you are younger I learned that “Londonistan” doesn’t really help – I’m an (exiled) Londoner (born in SE London and lived there for a fair few years) – I’ve recently moved to a more chilled out semi-rural area as and I am shocked at how harsh life in todays capital for youths, whenever I go back I can sense the greyness and anger and negativity literally in the air as Essex mutates into East London..

OK if you live there you may need to make the most of your surroundings and deal with what is happening in your ends just to survive but its good to get out sometimes…
December 27, 2007 at 12:55 am

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mudstomper

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DaftFader wrote:

yeah thats a very good point … if im feeling down .. even in the worce states i have been in .. simpsons or and comady /stand up pref brings me back to reality (my happy one) and cheers me up:group_hug

a mod friend of mine went to see the live mighty boosh .. she absolutly loved it …

Laughter in any form can really help out, sometimes it’s enough to knacker you out and get a bit of kip, thing is sometimes that’s enough to take the little steps you’ve mentioned, I think half of my problem is mourning for that happy side when it goes AWOL and not being able to produce the silly prat side that makes make mates laugh when they need it :group_hug
December 27, 2007 at 1:08 am

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General Lighting

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mudstomper wrote:

Laughter in any form can really help out, sometimes it’s enough to knacker you out and get a bit of kip, thing is sometimes that’s enough to take the little steps you’ve mentioned, I think half of my problem is mourning for that happy side when it goes AWOL and not being able to produce the silly prat side that makes make mates laugh when they need it :group_hug

I still laugh at some of the things you were telling me about at that gathering…

(have you still got the pic of a certain local acid techno DJ sparked out in your toilet?) :laugh_at:
December 27, 2007 at 1:09 am

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DaftFader

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mudstomper wrote:

Laughter in any form can really help out, sometimes it’s enough to knacker you out and get a bit of kip, thing is sometimes that’s enough to take the little steps you’ve mentioned, I think half of my problem is mourning for that happy side when it goes AWOL and not being able to produce the silly prat side that makes make mates laugh when they need it :group_hug

yeah i totaly undersatnd … it’s tends to be the missing things inbetween the good times that gets ppl down … thats why i say just keep your self busy doing summing you enjoy .. w/e it is
December 27, 2007 at 1:14 am

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DaftFader

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General Lighting wrote:

thanks for sharing that..

also although it may seem as a “buzzing city” when you are younger I learned that “Londonistan” doesn’t really help – I’m an (exiled) Londoner (born in SE London and lived there for a fair few years) – I’ve recently moved to a more chilled out semi-rural area as and I am shocked at how harsh life in todays capital for youths, whenever I go back I can sense the greyness and anger and negativity literally in the air as Essex mutates into East London..

OK if you live there you may need to make the most of your surroundings and deal with what is happening in your ends just to survive but its good to get out sometimes…

yeah i live in exatly the place you are talking about .. just out side ne london in essex … and i know what you meen …. i used to live in a place called crawly as well…. about 1 hr south of london .. and that place is the same …also when you have so many ppl in one small space like a big town / city .. its hard to avoid the bad ppl .. ppl that may have conflicts with your sanity/wellbeing ..
December 27, 2007 at 2:59 am

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JonnyQuest

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General Lighting wrote:

OK if you live there you may need to make the most of your surroundings and deal with what is happening in your ends just to survive but its good to get out sometimes…

iv had my fair share of knives pulled on me and iv had to part ways with a phone or 2 (i carry an old nokia as a decoy nowadays) but to be honest i wouldnt have wanted to grow up anywhere but south east london iv moved around a little been in afew places around south east london and i like it here, yeh it might be more dangerous than other places and yeh it might be poorer than other places but homes home and i feel at home walking down the shitty old highstreets in the run down areas watching the firday night fights from silly chavs in bromley, or riding the nightbus home from central london and just watching all the shitty towns roll past, SAFF EAST LANDAN FOR LIFE
December 27, 2007 at 6:54 am

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mudstomper

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General Lighting wrote:

I still laugh at some of the things you were telling me about at that gathering…

(have you still got the pic of a certain local acid techno DJ sparked out in your toilet?) :laugh_at:

I have indeed, in fact I need them as proof as he doesn’t believe a word of it :love:
December 27, 2007 at 12:14 pm

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Raj

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:group_hug:group_hug:group_hug:group_hug

I sometimes find that giving that highly critical voice a high pitched squeaky voice and saying what its saying out loud takes the credibility away from it as it sounds so silly I cant take it seriously any more :laugh_at:

Bizarrely gardening works for me [as long as I am not mowing the f’ing lawn] as I go into a trance like state so I do that too cos the voice cant reach me there.
December 27, 2007 at 4:39 pm

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mudstomper

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Raj wrote:

:group_hug:group_hug:group_hug:group_hug

I sometimes find that giving that highly critical voice a high pitched squeaky voice and saying what its saying out loud takes the credibility away from it as it sounds so silly I cant take it seriously any more :laugh_at:

Bizarrely gardening works for me [as long as I am not mowing the f’ing lawn] as I go into a trance like state so I do that too cos the voice cant reach me there.

Think that’s the key when you’re well enough to find tricks and techniques to regain control of that voice, martial arts and drumming have always been two of mine, both of which I’ve been slack about taking up again. When I really needed help was when it was completely in control even to the point of finding negative aspects to trying to get help (you would look for sympathy you snivelling little fuck etc), eventually I dragged myself to the doctors, was entirely honest about my drug use etc which meant they didn’t want me to go down that route (not a bad thing in ways) but explained that any counselling would cost unfortunatly, I got one interview with a CPN who basically that one or two of the events in my life would have been enough to twist most people out of shape and that counselling was key, but, I couldn’t afford it, I was at college so I soldiered on which eventually led to a complete physical and mental breakdown for a while. I failed college but gradually I got work in IT anyway and life did get better bit by bit….
December 28, 2007 at 2:47 pm

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Raj

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mudstomper wrote:

Think that’s the key when you’re well enough to find tricks and techniques to regain control of that voice, martial arts and drumming have always been two of mine, both of which I’ve been slack about taking up again. When I really needed help was when it was completely in control even to the point of finding negative aspects to trying to get help (you would look for sympathy you snivelling little fuck etc), eventually I dragged myself to the doctors, was entirely honest about my drug use etc which meant they didn’t want me to go down that route (not a bad thing in ways) but explained that any counselling would cost unfortunatly, I got one interview with a CPN who basically that one or two of the events in my life would have been enough to twist most people out of shape and that counselling was key, but, I couldn’t afford it, I was at college so I soldiered on which eventually led to a complete physical and mental breakdown for a while. I failed college but gradually I got work in IT anyway and life did get better bit by bit….

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