TBH I think this happens everywhere to an extent (and for all age groups) for a variety of reasons
becaus of media paranoia ravers have a bad reputation even if they do have decent jobs and lifestyles.
Also even people who do or did take drugs are often guilty/paranoid about it as they believe the scare stories written in the press.
I’ve met quite a few women/ladies in their 20s and 30s (from “normal” places like work etc) who initially think I am a decent bloke but when I let on what I do at weekends they seem shocked that “I am still doing this sort of stuff “at my age”(!) – what, am I supposed to get a pipe and slippers now?”
worst part of it is some of these girls used to be ravers in their teens.
But there is another side to it though; given your age a lot of the girls will have elder sisters as well. Unfortunately many of them (and perhaps even the younger ones) may have had bad experiences due to drugs and lust.
Drugs change your emotions so you can easily fall in “love” with the wrong people!
Initially things are good particularly on loved up weekends but dark stuff like arguments and even domestic violence on comedowns – although alchohol is just as bad for this drugs can make it worse as comedowns can exacerbate paranoia and jealousy.
Comedowns are hard on the emotions of just one person; introduce two into that equation and things can get really gnarly..
Or sometimes the heavier drug user cant/won’t get a job and the relationship is strained due to financial problems as one partner is paying all the bills etc, or arguments erupt over the money spent at the weekend.
Sadly I’ve seen so many “rave couples” whom I thought were really solid split because of stuff like this; and often they tell their friends and relatives their side of the story which is ultimately interpreted by some as “don’t go out with drugged-up deadbeats”.
That said some people meet from the party scene or alternative lifestyls and do have lasting relationships and start families etc and stay together to raise the children; but they are people who would have been compatible anyway.
I think relationships are way harder than they ever were before anyway.
in this era of instant gratification people are becoming more superficial and selfish. It now seems OK for both genders to use one another as fuck buddies but never make any commitment; so lots of people don’t bother with real relationships any more!
But unless you are happy with quick flings with random people whom you then forget about (which gets boring after a while) I think its a matter of waiting – its better than getting into a relationship on false pretences and then slowly watching it unravel.
