OK, enough of the spleen. What you want are some facts and advice which might help.
First, one little documented effect of smack is that it reduces the male orgasm reflex. So the female in the relationship is getting lots of fun out of the male’s habit. An elasticated cock ring has exactly the same effect, usually they come with little soft studs on to stimulate the ladies’ pussy petals too. Presenting one to your friend (not the smack head, obviously) gives her a choice about how she gets her kicks.
Second, as documented in “The Celestine Prophecy” – a novel but it’s a useful model – there are four basic drama strategies for getting what you want. First, intimidation and bullying, either psychological or physical. The counterbalance strategy is the “poor me – help me” sympathy option.
The third method is interrogation, to drain away somebody’s resistance. Question/answer, question/answer, question/answer. The counterbalance to that is aloofness, or ignorance of the question. Sidestepping comes into to that too. Often used by politicians and leaders.
This list is not exhaustive – but I hope you have had some useful information from me that might actually help you.
How I sound or come across is affected by your stereotypes and prejudices too you know. 🙂
Have a nice life. Care and you are cared about (not necessarily from the same person or people).
The Planet knows her own though. And the Universe knows its’ own too.
