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  • Do you ever attend parties alone, if so…how does it go?
    Personally I’ve not done it but I will be doing it soon. Theres many a good gig in Brighton at the moment and I cant find people up for it.

    yeah i love it! u meet nice people there anyway if its a half decent night

    This kind of loneliness the Internet can make you feel can be depressing.

    Tis a strange thing, but when I attend parties with friends I generally find myself seperated from them anyway by half way through… it’s called the “Pat Invisibility Trick”.

    So it doesn’t really make a difference from my point of view. In a way it’s easier to meet new people while solo but there are an awful lot of people I’ve met at parties, who, while fun to party with, aren’t really friend material in the sense of meeting up off the dance floor.

    Yeah – I’ve done it….had some good times, had some bad times… You just gotta be confident, and know what you are trying to get out of being at the party alone…

    You might just wanna dance, n feel the bass (this is the most current reason for me doing so) or you might be trying to meet new people (as I had to do when I first moved to Liverpool).

    I found that a spliff before I got there didn’t help (couldn’t be arsed to interact with others) but a spliff there is always a good ice breaker, pass it round, meet some folks!

    Either way – have your wits about you, take care, have fun, and then report back and tell us how it went!

    Yeah I used to be well know for it. People used to no want to go out so I sed to just go out as I knew I would have the chance to meet new peeps at the party. Also music was the only friend I needed at the time.

    used to do it loads in Ipswich because I had to move there in my mid 30s and basically make a load of new friends.

    The events were perfectly fine as were the bulk of people I met there, the only dodgy bits were having to get there on foot and being around a town centre late at night but in reality the Police and CCTV actually did watch your back (and everyone elses) so geniuine trouble is rare provided to keep your wits about you and do not wander off with strangers into badly lit places. But I am a chap who is older than he looks, grew up in London and has learned some survival skills.

    Today there is less nightlife in Ipswich because drunks and troublemakers were equally stubborn to the point they actually tipped the balance with regard to recovery of public sector costs so that with budget cutbacks it cost more to nanny the revellers than what they were bringing in in drinks revenue (I’ve seen the whole reports on our Council website, they are 12 MB and not very interesting reading and those what took drugs seemed to drink loads as well and keel over. I’ve checked this independently with some very right on people who would not support such a clampdown but they’ve reluctantly admitted the atmosphere in town was declining (BTW the exact same is happening over the water in Holland)

    Ipswich is different from Brighton as although its a similar coastal town we use that wet stuff near us called the sea for big ships, bulk cargo and containers as well as small fishing vessels and yuppies yachts, and this daytime maritime economy is worth far more and less disruptive than the night time economy. You don’t even get pissed sailors on the dockside as they are foreign and the Border Force often won’t let them in off the ship so they have to stay there until they go back to wherever it came from (its not like a slave galley, they have Internet and satellite TV and plenty of room) but that means the locals get the benefit of the ships cargo without the risks of letting yet more foreigners in and any tensions they might cause (even though they are not bad guys)

    Brighton however is economically dependent to some extent on the night time economy and the University crowd so the local Government has to put its hand in its pocket to keep young people participating in the night time economy safe, otherwise it would just be one big retirement home like Eastbourne etc (and even these aren’t as safe/well run as those in East anglia)

    @Pat McDonald 556982 wrote:

    Tis a strange thing, but when I attend parties with friends I generally find myself seperated from them anyway by half way through… it’s called the “Pat Invisibility Trick”.

    So it doesn’t really make a difference from my point of view. In a way it’s easier to meet new people while solo but there are an awful lot of people I’ve met at parties, who, while fun to party with, aren’t really friend material in the sense of meeting up off the dance floor.

    Exactly this, people used to get pissy at me cos I used to do the invisible patrick and show up hours later from my visit from kaysus ; )

    I used to do it quite a lot back in the day .. even went raving all the way in Milton Keynes a few times @ the sanctuary and another place that opened down the road after the sanctuary closed.

    Can be a really good laugh as you haven’t got anyone else to worry about other then your self, but that in it’s self sets rise to another problem of being vulnerable. I don’t mean to be sexist but it’s worse for a girl to go out on her own as it’s a lot less likely that a guy would get raped (although it still does happen). What I tend to do if I’m out alone is get pally with a few different groups of people and then if something goes wrong, even with someone from one of the groups, you’ve got friends from a totally different peer group to turn to. I don’t do this intentionally for this reason, it’s just a benefit of chatting to everyone and getting pally with them.

    I’d much prefer to go to a small intimate rave on my larry then a big rave as you don’t feel as lost wandering about on your own and will be able to keep in contact with your new found friends over the course of the night rather then make friends and not see them for the rest of the evening because of the amount of people there. I went to a massive rave on my own once and spent most of the night (literally about 3-4 hours) chatting to the guy behind a little stall in the outside area that was selling rizzla and blunt papers. TBH I was rushing my tits off and he couldn’t escape haha … but he seamed very engaged as it was probably really boring for him there and welcomed the company … I’d fully well planned of having a fat stomp (what i did do for the remainder of the time) but I just got so into our conversation time just flew by. >.<

    @DaftFader 557060 wrote:

    I used to do it quite a lot back in the day .. even went raving all the way in Milton Keynes a few times @ the sanctuary and another place that opened down the road after the sanctuary closed.

    Can be a really good laugh as you haven’t got anyone else to worry about other then your self, but that in it’s self sets rise to another problem of being vulnerable. I don’t mean to be sexist but it’s worse for a girl to go out on her own as it’s a lot less likely that a guy would get raped (although it still does happen). What I tend to do if I’m out alone is get pally with a few different groups of people and then if something goes wrong, even with someone from one of the groups, you’ve got friends from a totally different peer group to turn to. I don’t do this intentionally for this reason, it’s just a benefit of chatting to everyone and getting pally with them.

    I’d much prefer to go to a small intimate rave on my larry then a big rave as you don’t feel as lost wandering about on your own and will be able to keep in contact with your new found friends over the course of the night rather then make friends and not see them for the rest of the evening because of the amount of people there. I went to a massive rave on my own once and spent most of the night (literally about 3-4 hours) chatting to the guy behind a little stall in the outside area that was selling rizzla and blunt papers. TBH I was rushing my tits off and he couldn’t escape haha … but he seamed very engaged as it was probably really boring for him there and welcomed the company … I’d fully well planned of having a fat stomp (what i did do for the remainder of the time) but I just got so into our conversation time just flew by. >.<

    Always copying me

    @thelog 557067 wrote:

    Always copying me

    Always copying me

    I used to attend most parties alone, i wouldn’t say i look vulnerable though!
    I always made it look as though i was with people if i needed to give that impression off.
    Would nor,mally bump into random friendly people anyway so wouldn’t be alone for the duration…
    Good luck !

    I just went to a Jon Hopkins show by myself this past weekend and it was fantastic. It’s always a little more leery if you are a chick going to a show alone – just know the venue and I recommend staying away from too many substances. hah.

    Sometimes I actually prefer going to shows alone because forcing friends who don’t really want to go kind of taints the musical experience. And you’re always guaranteed to meet people who enjoy the same music as you if they are at the same show.

    I wouldn’t do it personally. I like a base camp. A plan B if you like.

    There’s nothing wrong with going alone I’ve done it lots of times. You tend to walk in alone and come out with loads of new mates anyway. It’s a great way to meet new people.

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