i’d say it depends.
violent crime like gangs doing things to get “in the crew” is sickenin
then again, some people have been known to do something out of order, but a one-off, out-of-character instance. for example, when completely drunk, do something stupid. i’ve known one lad who did this… he got very drunk and did something stupid (i wont say what it was, it was violent though)
he hated himself for it. it didnt do any real damage thankfully, and the person he did it to completely forgave him (they were friends) as he knew that it was so out-of-character. he’s the most calm, kind and generally thoughtful person. but he made one mistake, whilst aresholed.
we’ve pretty much forgot it. police werent involved and we’ve tried to stop the story spreading round the community, but he’s told me he’s fearful of it getting out and everyone thinking he’s a cunt.
the fact he still beats himself up about it even though the guy forgave him shows he’s not a cunt, it was a single mistake.
that to me is different from someone who is generally violent and even plans it.
