theres going to be domestic violence protests outside the film etc and hardcore feminist objectors..this is a bit crazy to me when there are real cases of abuse far worse and this is just a film exploring an aspect of sexuality,QUOTE]
Firstly, stories like this AFFECT society. Media plays a huge role in shaping peoples opinion. If you have a problem with rape and abuse, then have a problem for stories like this that play a role in perpetrating it.
Secondly ‘real cases of abuse far worse than this’ DO you mean the abuse in 50 shades? Because the abuse in that book is actually horrendous.
Lets make a few points clear.
1. BDSM is consensual, it is the informed consent between people who take different power roles for sexual pleasure.
2. in 50 shades, there is frequently non consensual sex, making it rape and abuse porn. *
3. Rape and spouse abuse is a big problem, it rarely ends with the abuser facing prison time.
4. 50 shades is widely sold, with no age requirement or warning label.
“The Dominant reserves the right to dismiss the submissive from his service at any time and for any reason. The submissive may request her release at any time, such request to be granted at the discretion of the Dominant…”
That there is NOT BDSM.
50 shades is rape porn, yet it sells under the guise as romance/BDSM.
The means that the many people reading the book, see abuse and interpret it as romantic.
This is a problem as its where most rapists and abusers get away with crimes. They manipulate the victim to believing that they are NOT being raped and abused – meaning the victim doesn’t end up reporting it (and often when they do nothing happens anyway)
You say actual abuse and rape is more of a problem in this world compared to a book, well – the book IS part of that problem. The media plays an important role in shaping how we as a society act. When you change the media, you change society.
For the note – if women want to get off on rape fantasies, that’s their prerogative. But the content they read needs to be correctly labelled for what it is.
Heres some examples of rape/ abuse in 50 shades:
- Grey ‘warns’ ana about himself, then proceeds to send her gifts.
- She drunk dials him in a club, he demands to see her and she refuses to tell him where she is. SO he TACKS her mobile, tracks her location and gets her.
- He threatens her by saying ‘if you were mine, you wouldn’t sit down for a weak after that stunt you pulled last night” (the stunt that is going to a club with her mates, also this is before he has talked about being into BDSM)
- He takes her home to his bed when shes black-out drunk, instead of arranging for her to get home safely.
- He knows where she lives before she’s even told him.
- Getting her to sign a contract, without fully disclosing what the sex would entail, the contract also forbids her to tell friends about it.
- He has no consideration for her emotional or physical wellbeing when he takes her virginity. He just fucks her really hard whilst she screams out in pain.
- He tells her shes a possession ““Every time you move tomorrow, I want you to be reminded that I’ve been here. Only me. You are mine.”
- Gets angry when she talks to a male friend.
- After she sees this contract he writes up, she emails him to say it was nice knowing him, but shes not interested. So, he breaks into her appartent with an aggressive demeanour. Ana describes how scared and intimidated she is to the reader.
- Actual rape. He tries to seduce her, she says ‘no’ to which he replies ‘if you struggle I will tie you up so you cant move’
I don’t even think that’s a third of the way in the first book (there are three books!) SO that long list up there is only 1/9th of the shadey shit in the whole series. Good lord!
