But I do not agree with the comment about girls staying with violent men… do you not think that perhaps they are just as scared??? These violent men are more than likely bullies to their partners as well!! I am not saying that this is the case in every situation but still you cannot lump people in one category… sorry that was me on a rant about an entirely different subject :shy:
no, its very much linked to this case, and the trouble that is occuring at street level and even sometimes at parties…
they probably are scared – and are being bullied by their current partners – but there is a trend of girls going back to wanting “macho” type males, many of whom may seem nice at first meetings but then eventually turn out to be posessive and violent.
Its usually the “smooth, confident” bloke who turns out to be the violent one
yet lads often see these scum pulling loads of girls, this is unsurprisingly causing a street culture amongst younger males which is returning to the 1970s “traditional” gender values (not a good thing!)
I am shocked at some of the things young lads say about girls on other messageboards – teenagers that is, not 50 year old neanderthals.. its more like 1975 than 2005….
the very fact that I am making a post like this makes me sound to many other blokes like an “old fashioned 1980s sandal-wearing hippy” (which I am not!)
I appreciate that it will be difficult for girls to get rid of these scum (particularly if they have equally misogynistic friends who will support the bloke involved) and often they make the girls dependent on drugs and/or housing etc (relationship power games) but the only way they girls and women can avoid this is by realising this is wrong, and if need be actually making the call to social services, cops or crimestoppers.
I am personally shocked at the amount of domestic violence that occurs amongst young couples (particularly those on the rave scene, usually midweek when comedowns kick in) and some of the more harrowing threads I have seen on this and other boards, and feel that something must be done.
People of all genders must realise this is never acceptable, if it happens that relationship should not continue regardless and that even if you have an alternative lifestyle the only option may be to engage with the traditional authorities..
Otherwise there is a serious danger that the clock is being turned back and the small progressive gains (which are nowhere near enough) made in the 1980s with regard to gender equality are actually being reversed..
