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Well, the only other female party-head in our group got pregnant a few months ago and has knocked all the raving on the head. One of our guys has a girlfriend who doesn’t go to parties and she’s insisted he can now only go to one every sixth weekend or some balls. And my main man went a little too far on the drugs and has decided he needs a massive break from the whole scene, since for him it’s become too much about the substance abuse. There are one or two other people in the area who might be up for it but they’re not overly reliable..
I’ve managed to swing a warehouse rave tomorrow night because a friend will be in Milton Keynes so he can pick me up to get there. But I’m coming to the realisation that I’m basically a massive party head who’s running out of options and pretty soon I’m not going to be able to get there unless I learn how to drive (which is NOT going to happen for a huge bunch of reasons I won’t go in to). *sigh* I know there’s actually no real solution. You either have friends who drive and want to attend or you don’t. I see people flooding the sound systems’ facebook walls every now and again looking for a seat to a rave and they never get any response. Who the fuck wants to confirm a stranger in their car before they’ve made sure all their friends are sorted for a lift? Come to think of it, who wants to confirm a stranger in general, really? It’s a bit of a gamble both ways.
I dunno. I’m just venting because I feel like my rave days are over, haha! And sometimes it’s tough to accept that other people you’ve raved so hard with want to give it all up for pursuits that simply don’t seem as noble and worthwhile to me 😛
can you not just find some new friends who do go and can drive? or move to London and get the train.
@HSB 458826 wrote:
can you not just find some new friends who do go and can drive? or move to London and get the train.
Because neither of those things are at all straight forward and easy, are they? For one, you don’t just make new friends out of thin air. I wouldn’t spend the time and energy befriending a bunch of people for the sole purpose of needing lifts on a Saturday because that’s kind of low, and even if I did want to do that, it’s where to find these people. Like I said, I see people cutting straight to the chase and trying to hustle lifts online all the time with amiable party heads, but those amiable party heads have amiable party head friends who want to rave too and it’s not realistic for them to just take someone they don’t know in their car when they’re probably already having to leave some of the people they do know behind due to seat shortages. As for moving to London, I’m not sure why that would be necessary. If you live in Milton Keynes you’re in a pretty damn fine place for free parties – Bucks is completely filled with them and about 80% of the people you meet there are from MK – it’s a big scene here. I’m only off to one in London because that’s where a guy I know raves and he just happens to be visiting MK tomorrow so he can take me but that’s a one off arrangement.
I think I’m just going to have to get used to the fact that it’s not going to be what I’m certainly doing every weekend anymore. It’s going to be more of a case of when I can hustle it but not holding my breath. I’ve spoken to a few ex-ravers who talked to me about how depressing it was when all of their friends just kind of stopped going and fell out of love with it and they ended up feeling alone. I never really put too much stock into before because it had never happened to me, but it’s happening to me now and I’m not impressed, haha! To be honest, I’m totally convinced I’m much more of a hardcore party head than any of my friends. Not that it’s a competition. I’ve just noticed that I’m the only one who’s never needed to have some kind of break because it’s fucked my head up or whatever. I don’t think it takes it out of me mentally and physically on anywhere near the same level as it seems to for them. I’m the last one standing.
Incidentally, this warehouse rave I’m off to in London is going to be completely different from anything I’ve been to before. It’s an illegal rave but it’s not free. They do them up big – they have private security to sort out any trouble and make sure obvious non-party head chavs don’t gain entry, whilst making sure everyone else gets in with all their drugs on them. All the rooms are decorated with UV stuff and there are multiple rigs and whatnot. I’m not used to anything quite so organised. Plus, the mian room is always a psy room so the main drug is LSD. I’ve only ever taken Mandy at raves and it’s my drug of choice but apparently it’s quite hard to find at these ones.. It’s all gonna be an experience. I’m used to something much more raw.
Ramble ramble.
@Bon Idée 458831 wrote:
Because neither of those things are at all straight forward and easy, are they? For one, you don’t just make new friends out of thin air. I wouldn’t spend the time and energy befriending a bunch of people for the sole purpose of needing lifts on a Saturday because that’s kind of low, and even if I did want to do that, it’s where to find these people. Like I said, I see people cutting straight to the chase and trying to hustle lifts online all the time with amiable party heads, but those amiable party heads have amiable party head friends who want to rave too and it’s not realistic for them to just take someone they don’t know in their car when they’re probably already having to leave some of the people they do know behind due to seat shortages. As for moving to London, I’m not sure why that would be necessary. If you live in Milton Keynes you’re in a pretty damn fine place for free parties – Bucks is completely filled with them and about 80% of the people you meet there are from MK – it’s a big scene here. I’m only off to one in London because that’s where a guy I know raves and he just happens to be visiting MK tomorrow so he can take me but that’s a one off arrangement.
I think I’m just going to have to get used to the fact that it’s not going to be what I’m certainly doing every weekend anymore. It’s going to be more of a case of when I can hustle it but not holding my breath. I’ve spoken to a few ex-ravers who talked to me about how depressing it was when all of their friends just kind of stopped going and fell out of love with it and they ended up feeling alone. I never really put too much stock into before because it had never happened to me, but it’s happening to me now and I’m not impressed, haha! To be honest, I’m totally convinced I’m much more of a hardcore party head than any of my friends. Not that it’s a competition. I’ve just noticed that I’m the only one who’s never needed to have some kind of break because it’s fucked my head up or whatever. I don’t think it takes it out of me mentally and physically on anywhere near the same level as it seems to for them. I’m the last one standing.
Incidentally, this warehouse rave I’m off to in London is going to be completely different from anything I’ve been to before. It’s an illegal rave but it’s not free. They do them up big – they have private security to sort out any trouble and make sure obvious non-party head chavs don’t gain entry, whilst making sure everyone else gets in with all their drugs on them. All the rooms are decorated with UV stuff and there are multiple rigs and whatnot. I’m not used to anything quite so organised. Plus, the mian room is always a psy room so the main drug is LSD. I’ve only ever taken Mandy at raves and it’s my drug of choice but apparently it’s quite hard to find at these ones.. It’s all gonna be an experience. I’m used to something much more raw.
Ramble ramble.
there must be people online you can get to know and then go raving with, I knew no one when I got into the scene. Though I do admit getting lifts is hard, offering money/drugs often does the trick. But I think there comes a time in everyones life where raving every weekend is not possible for a verity of reasons.
Sure there were a few folk off of here who said they were local to you? get chattin to them?
why can you learn to drive? already got points or something?
this happens when people get older but I find it odd that this now seems to occur at age 25+ or even earlier whereas it would be well into the 30s before my generation settled down. All my mates from this town I used to go raving with have stopped or left the area. I can understand new parents doing this but not so much younger people without kids..I also do not drive or own a car and there are not even legal local events at the moment but TBH even if I did it would just be asking for hassle driving to raves at my age, I’d end up ferrying a load of youths around with me and feds (as well as their parents) look suspiciously on that sort of thing, for completely understandable reasons particularly after the events of 5 years ago in this town.
I’ve already been told by Thames Valley (when I lived there) and got nicked in my 30s “aren’t you getting a bit old for this now?”. The copper was being relatively light hearted and I got released without charge but I’ve had it confirmed by other serving Police officers in other constabularies and seen formal reports on the Home Office research website (the one for proper criminologists as well as cops/govt etc) that they consider anyone who is still taking part in illegal activity at age 35-40 to at the very least be suffering borderline mental health problems / personality disorders or at worse to be involved in serious/organised crime.
if you’re going to a psy event you might meet our Cypriot friend lysergicacid if he’s in Blighty at the moment…
yeah i’ve met lysergic in person, he’s a legend. though i met pretty much most people on here, that’s why i love this site so much 😉
he lives in cambridge though so will come in to LDN (londonistan as gl would say) the complete opposite way.
maybe it’s a good thing you don’t party so hard, if you’re doing MDMA at most of em can’t be doing you much good ;P
Yeah I found after a good few years raving every weekend (even sometimes going to 2 raves on a weekend) the magic can die easy. I only go a few times a year now and enjoy them much more as it’s a special occasion type of thing now so really look forward to them when I go.
Also I’m a fuck of a lot healthier nowdays partly because of this.
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