@ConfusedBoyfriend 364584 wrote:
Anyway, tried talking last night but she was so immediately defensive even though I kept stressing that I’m NOT criticising her or her behaviour, just trying to understand my bad feelings towards her occasional usage…we got nowhere and now I feel a bit fed up….she made a good point that really I should have more of a problem with her usage of alcohol (can be bad for her sometimes) and cigarettes….which I agree with from a logical standpoint….but for some reason I have a more emotional respsonse to her using other substances…..totally hyprocritical I know.
doesn’t sound like you are being irrational or overly judgemental at all, and unfortunately you can’t help but be a bit “hypocritical” for as long as the laws make drugs illegal.
I’ve got a younger sister who is now in a long term relationship and challenged her partner about his recreational drug use because it was making him demotivated and lazy, and irritable (she is otherwise very progressive minded in her views). He cut down his use and they are planning to get married next year.
When I was living in the family home, whilst I did not suffer major physical or mental health issues from recreational drug use, it certainly caused negative incidents at home.
The bulk of these were due to me getting arrested a number of times for possession and rave-related activities, and unfortunately it did bring the Police to the family home as for a variety of bizzare interlinked reasons metpol decided to do an Immigration check on me when I once got nicked in London (not even their fault, more that of a sketchy local Council when I lived there).
Also my use was making me lazy, impulsive and snappy at others and in danger of getting deeper into anti-social behaviour.
This of course made my younger sister not anti-freedom but conscious of both the positive and negative effects of drugs and she quite rightly judges people accordingly.
